Out of Office - eviltoast
    • @mightyfoolish@lemmy.worldEnglish
      13•6 days ago

      This post is actually scary. Probably should get in touch with the embassy or something and get a courtesy check done on him?

      • Lord WiggleEnglish
        4•6 days ago

        If he, or the mafia doesn’t want him to be found, there’s not much you can do.

        But in all seriousness: yeah, when someone is missing they should be reported as such at the local police, who can contact the embassy’s office in the country they were going on holiday. Many parts of Italy are very safe, rich, modern. But there are also parts where you will get hurt, especially as a tourist. Loads of poverty, gangs, mafia, corruption (particularly the south).

        • @mightyfoolish@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1•5 days ago

          I’m sure you are correct about who to contact first but I would get worried the police would say it’s out of their jurisdiction.

          • Lord WiggleEnglish
            2•5 days ago

            Ah ok. I thought in freedomland it wouldn’t be much different, but usually a missing person claim should be passed onto the missing persons division of the responsible police force with a unit like that. But if anyone says “nope, bye” you can always try somewhere else. Or Google it, or ask chat gpt.

  • @collapse_already@lemmy.mlEnglish
    35•7 days ago

    I worked at a restaurant as a teen. One of the managers went to Hawaii for vacation and never came back. Food service jobs are not hard to find. The bartender he was occasionally fucking was pretty unhappy because he didn’t even tell her or call.

    • @MoonMelon@lemmy.mlEnglish
      18•6 days ago

      Every time I’ve gone to a beautiful place, (Kauai/Virgin Islands/Moab etc) I’ve run into former insurance salesman types who just said fuck it, and stayed, and now live in an old school bus and fix outboards or whatever. Often it was precipitated by a big life event like a divorce or a child leaving the nest but sometimes they just bounced. I get it.

    • @ameancow@lemmy.worldEnglish
      36•7 days ago

      I used to fantasize about doing this.

      When it got to a point that I was making careful plans for how to effectively remove all traces of my existence before walking into the sea or something, I realized that it was probably not a good thing that I was fixating on this “fantasy” and how attractive it was becoming, so I went to a nice little family mental health clinic in walking distance.

      I was diagnosed with depression, PTSD and general anxiety disorder. A few years and a few rounds of therapy and medication later and I’m… still struggling. But at least I’m not planning my exit. There’s a lot to live for, but you can’t see it when your brain starts running away with your mental narratives. Don’t ruminate, don’t fantasize. Get some help and do something new with your lives.

      • @NaoPbEnglish
        7•7 days ago

        I’m in a similar situation. I recognize the planning of my exit. I used to do that in the past. Or well. Maybe it’s not all in my past yet. But I’m doing my best.

        All the best to you.

      • @verity_kindle@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        4•7 days ago

        Good ideas, all around. I’m glad you didn’t walk into the sea. I have walked through that dark place myself and it led me to get a therapist who knew exactly what that was like. I learned how to help myself. It’s been ten years since then.

      • @Rediphile@lemmy.caEnglish
        2•7 days ago

        Meh, I find recognizing I have that ability is actually calming and snaps me out of the depression a bit.

  • @limelight79@lemm.eeEnglish
    7•5 days ago

    A guy at work did something like that. Went on vacation for a week, just never returned. Didn’t return phone calls or emails. Eventually he popped up on social media about 6 months later and some coworkers spotted him and got the story. If I remember correctly (which I may not), I think his girlfriend convinced him to stay, so he did, and he just ghosted his job.

  • LiveLMEnglish
    30•7 days ago

    What to do if you win the lottery 101

  • @Etterra@lemmy.worldEnglish
    23•7 days ago

    I’ve had some coworkers that would have made my life better if they’d f’ed off to Italy and never come back.

  • @pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    25•7 days ago

    I, too, fantasize about my coworkers wondering where I am, cue comedy smash cut to my slowly swinging corpse

    If/when I do kms it won’t be by hanging but it’s a funnier mental image

  • @cumskin_genocide@lemm.eeEnglish
    19•7 days ago

    Something similar happened to a coworker of mine a long time ago. This girl I used to work with, Adriana, her boyfriend, Christopher, called us at work one day one said that she went on vacation and she just never came back. It was a shame too because the guy died in a car crash like a year later. I saw it on the news.

  • @RizzRustbolt@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11•7 days ago

    Who hasn’t watched “Searching for Italy” and thought, “Yeah, Italy’s fucking awesome! I could totally make it there!”?

        • @Damage@slrpnk.netEnglish
          1•2 days ago

          It depends on where you want to live, Italy is VERY diverse for a country its size (it used to be multiple countries not that long ago, after all). I’m from the north.
          The average salary is about 24-34k€ depending on latitude, but roughly one third of that goes into paycheck taxes before you even see it. A skilled professional can make up to double that, but that’s not easy, and only in the north, where life is more expensive. All of this is excluding places like Milan, where everything is WAY more expensive.

          Internet connections are a shot in the dark in rural areas sometimes you can get 250mbit, sometimes 0, I know of people who work from home with 30Mbit connections and it’s painful.
          Rent depends strongly on the location and the city, a 80m2 apartment in a secondary city is probably 800-1200€/month right now, that is why most people live with their parents until they get a stable relationship, as you need two incomes to afford a place to live usually. I spend about 100-200€/week for groceries for two adults, but we both make good money and I tend to buy expensive stuff.

          Air conditioning is painful. My home isn’t super modern, so insulation is what it is, I probably spend 800€/year in the summer for A/C, and the machine itself is 2 years old, so it’s an efficient one. The one I replaced was even more expensive to run.

        • @suction@lemmy.worldEnglish
          3•7 days ago

          I once lived in Tokyo for three years, had both, after half a year I couldn’t wait to go home.

          • @CaptnNMorgan@reddthat.comEnglish
            1•6 days ago

            Are you a natural Hermit? I think I would love to live somewhere where I have minimal communication with everyone around me. I would also love to visit family and friends back home maybe once a year at most. I already kind of do that but at least I would have an excuse.

            • @suction@lemmy.worldEnglish
              0•6 days ago

              I’m not a party animal exactly but also not a hermit. The reason I wanted to go home was the racism and xenophobia of Japanese people (which mostly isn’t aggressive but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t grind you down over time)

              On the other hand I think as a white guy, experiencing that kind of arrogance, unwarranted superiority of the majority race, while at the same time being able to find all the skeletons in the closet (because behind the nice veneer, Japan is quite the unrepairable mess) was very enlightening so I am glad I didn’t go home early.

  • @jpreston2005@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2•5 days ago

    I seriously almost did this. I visited the Netherlands, and fell absolutely head over heels for their way of life. It’s so damn peaceful and free! You don’t have to worry about getting shot when you’re running errands. You don’t have to worry about going bankrupt through medical expenses. You don’t have to worry about going to jail over weed or mushrooms. You don’t have to buy a car, because bicycling infrastructure and public transportation is AMAZING.

    While I was there I met a lovely chap who is originally from England. He told me that he spent a holiday in Amsterdam, and broke his leg. So he stayed at the hospital, and afterwards, just didn’t leave. He’s been working/living there ever since.

    When it came time for me to leave, I had accidentally missed my train, and it was going to be some extra money to switch around my flight/train to get back home, and a part of me was seriously considering just being like “fuck it” and staying. The only thing stopping me from moving there now is the knowledge that I’d have to continue paying taxes to the U.S. if I wanted to keep my citizenship while living and paying taxes in the Netherlands. 😑

    If anyone can tell me a way around this… please do, because I want to move to the Netherlands.

    • @sayitghoul@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2•5 days ago

      I am Dutch but moved to England (for love) 16 years ago and I have never regretted it. Do it while you can, else you will just live with the regret. It is such a life experience moving countries, there is no way to describe it. The magical feeling that you have in the beginning does disappear a little over the years, but it never leaves completely. The memories you create are just so amazing that you will never lose the magical feeling entirely.

      Just. Do. It.

        • @dohpaz42@lemmy.worldEnglish
          55•7 days ago

          If you’re considering ending it all, make one phone call. You’ve got nothing to lose.

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          Edit: Apparently the link I posted above is not viewable by everyone. So, below is the content of the article in Markdown format:

          Argentina Suicide Prevention Resources

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      • downpunxx
        5•7 days ago

        “And I would’ve gotten away with it too, if it weren’t for you meddling kids!”

    • @TexasDrunk@lemmy.worldEnglish
      41•7 days ago

      That happened to a friend of mine. He deleted everything when he had a mental health episode. Took time off. They found his remains months later.

      So yeah, could be.