Guys, what's a toxic trait other guys sometimes have - eviltoast
    • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      Because it’s likely the first thing you notice and then you look for the harmful secondary traits.

      Like a guy that has a really short fuse with himself. He might just have really high expectations for himself…… buuuuut once you notice that first trait, you keep your eyes out for the secondary ones, where he has a shorter fuse with others.

    • Fushuan [he/him]@lemm.ee
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      4 months ago

      Because it’s part of the mix of traits that that kind of group tends to have. It’s not one of the toxic ones but its part of the ones used to identify them.

      • chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        It’s a stereotype. It’s designed for mental shortcuts. But then it also casts a much wider net than it ought to and ends up harming innocent people.

        • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          4 months ago

          Someone thinking that you kind of look like a Joe Rogan bro until they get to know you is not what I would personally classify as harm.

        • Midnight Wolf@lemmy.world
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          4 months ago

          It’s a stereotype

          Without going too far down the slippery slope: stereotypes exist for a reason. Nissan driver? No insurance, late on car payment, dead-end job. Furry? Gay or bi, nerdy, works in IT or STEM. Boomer? Can’t operate a computer to save their life, is angry and scared about electric cars and renewable energy, their house cost $30k and they don’t realize why kids these days don’t have one.

          There’s outliers, sure, but…

      • chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        It really isn’t. Lots of people who listen to Joe Rogan don’t work out. Lots of people who work out don’t listen to Joe Rogan.

        I do neither, though I am planning to start working out to lose some body fat and try to strengthen my bad ankle.