Raising kids nowadays - eviltoast
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    4 days ago

    It’s a delicate balance. On the one hand you want to invest all the time and energy you can to raise kids well so they don’t end up Republicans. But you also have to be careful not to spoil them with gifts from their elders which they’ll just take for granted, because at that point they are already Republicans.

  • RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I don’t get it. This is a grown man? Why does your child appear to have their own child, and why are they so much taller than you?

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    When he’s a teen he’s going to (likely) be super horny and angry, and most people are going find him annoying. In ancient, ancient, ancient times, this is when he’d go on walkabout, live off the land and eventually steal a girl from another tribe, a) we’ve stopped doing that, instead letting him go through adolescence at home, and b) Our post-Christian (post-Paulean) culture thinks sex is icky and he’s a perv for being too horny to learn math.

    This is when he’ll be tempted into the incel movement, especially if his school hits him with no sex ed, or abstinence-only sex ed (which is still a plague in the US). You’ll have to teach him boldly and candidly, or talk to Planned Parenthood about a way to explain everything from flirting to courtship to consent to protection.

    I haven’t had the teenage girl experience, but I’ve heard it’s super easy and super arbitrary for her to be branded a slut. The whole patriarchal system is against her, so if she seems to have either a brain or ambition, her teachers, family, ministers and police officers will peg her as a feminist and future-childless-cat-lady. On the other hand, if she wants to be a tradwife (or pretends to) then she’ll be seen as boring.

    Also when she’s in her mid teens, she’ll be intolerably cranky, and it’ll be very easy to want her to get managed by the other parent or go away or something.

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    I don’t have a child, but, were I cursed with one, I would abandon them in the Z drawer of the card file and let them sort life out, just like my sperm donor did to me.

    Dewey Decimal or death.

  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works
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    You teach kids to be stressed about imaginary concepts known as “return deadlines”

    I wear an eye patch and fly the jolly roger, and set sail to traverse the perilous high seas for precious .epub and .pdf tresure chests

    We are not the same

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      Children should learn that actions come with consequences, and I can’t really think of a more low-stakes* way to teach that than library return deadlines

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      Tbh if you return the book the library will usually just waive the late fee because they really just want their book back and nothing more

    • Wolf@lemmy.today
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      Libraries are so much more than just a place to read free books. They are public and community meeting places, archives, research centers, one of the few places you can just hang out in public and not be expected to buy anything.

      Most importantly in our uber capitalist society Libraries are one of the few widely supported institutions (along with national parks) that show that shared resources and public ownership can work very well, and should be preserved if for no other reason than that alone.

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    Kids should be given knowledge and opportunity to decide their own fate. I’m fine they decide to maga or kill each other or end the human species what so ever.

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      The first sentence is solid reasoning. If you just add a sprinkle of empathy to their learning process the second sentence won’t happen.

      It’s easier said than done. Honestly.

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      Indeeed so we shoud start by never teaching indoctrinating kids religion.

      Once they’re 18 they can take up whatever woo woo shit they want, be it astrology, christian, muslim, or economics for that matter.

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    Are there even any books in there still?

    Relax folks, I’m kidding…

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      TONS.

      My local library is about half for under 12, a quarter or the space for teens, and then the last quarter is a split of nonfiction and fiction for adults.

      So if you go as an adult without a plan or a request that came in, you may not find much other than the librarians latest rec or the newest additions rack.

      For kids though, my local library is incredible. Reading nooks, educational play areas for the little ones, etc. Its wonderful.

      My oldest is getting anywhere from 6-8 books a week right now, she’s going into 2nd grade. Libraries are awesome.

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        I was just being a bit facetious. Referring to the fact that books with educational material seem to feel threatening to the current administration and the leaders of some states.

        I know there are still books in libraries. 😁

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          Gotcha, there are some folks out there who think its basically a blockbuster with a computer lab these days, so figured I’d comment all the same.

          Its a resource too few take advantage of IMO…