Me personally? I’ve become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women’s expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I’ve matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I’ve come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of ‘humor’ really is, and I regret it deeply.
Wanker isn’t close to retard.
Wanker is someone that is an arsehole. Retard is someone who is an idiot.
So what you’re saying is you do agree with my point that there isn’t another perfect word for it, since wanker means “asshole idiot”