Red flag. Bad opsec. I wouldn’t trust someone who trusts me.
Sounds like a scene from Get Out lol.
Have confidence in the credibility of what she is expressing in those videos.
Why is this posted in the funny community?
The poster says it’s funny
“Let me take a video of you saying you’re going to kill the president.”
First, 100% a red flag. Even if they wanted to give some sort of “I trust you with my life” sort of video, there’s a bunch of better ways to do it. Going for a racist rant makes me think that they’re a racist.
Secondly, this is deeply submissive - they’re giving you the power to ruin their life. If you want to do that sort of stuff as a couple you should really talk about it first and be on board with receiving that sort of power and responsibility. Entirely possible+reasonable for the receiver to find this shitty because they don’t want to make a choice like this, especially if these are truly held beliefs.
The healthy response to this is to send them to a therapist. And definitely dump them if they’re actually racist.
I don’t see how someone could do a racist rant and not be racist. That it is a rant is an important word here.
Not even if you were an actor?
Have you never heard of acting?
Where’s the leverage if it’s a performance?
I can (and have, many times) dropped a hard-r for comedic effect, even around my black friends, as they have the context to know that I’m not actually the kind of person to use that word normally
If I was recorded and shared to the internet doing so free of context, I would be labelled as a racist shithead immediately and forever
Is that the situation here? It is not.
Everyone wanting to give the benefit of the doubt here gives racists room to exist.
That’s how I read it, yes. But we obviously don’t have enough context to say whether the GF is actually racist or just pretending to be as a crazy trust exercise. I’m taking it as a crazy trust exercise because that’s the only way this could fit any definition of “romantic.”
I bet if you tried hard enough you could come up with one
Ok. What’s yours?
I think taking any random problem and putting blame on a group of people would be racist. I could spruce it up with the term “nipper” or “kike” and most people would find it racist
I suppose you just don’t find anything racist if you can’t come up with it
I supposed you just don’t find anything racist
I am arguing the exact opposite.
Subby racist? She clearly wants the colored dick “forced” on her
ITT: Everyone taking a shitpost from reddit posted to Funny@sh.itjust.works seriously
Also: both romantic and a red flag
Nah, if it was real they’re either fucked in the head about romance or feeling them out with deniability. Just a red flag in superposition between different warnings.
Plus you’ll note there isn’t anything in there about not believing what she said. Just the nonsense about trust.
A red flag.
Sharing dangerous ideas with somebody to show that you think they are safe is an honest signal of trust, but only if the dangerous ideas are genuine.
Someone who attempts to buy trust disingenuously is not to be trusted.
Someone who thinks in terms of kompromat and manipulation is dangerous to be around.
Sounds like a red flag with a white circle and a black symbol within. But also romantic. They’re not mutually exclusive.
As some say, romance is death…
She’s probably great in bed. The crazy ones always are.
To all you younglings out there reading this, crazy chicks are fun but they will ruin your life.
Never stick your dick in crazy.
Never stick your dick in crazy more than once.
FTFY
Absolutely. Remember this: crazy chicks are fun.
Truth. There’s often no safe exit strategy either. Once the deed is done, you are in grave danger.
Don’t be a fool, use your tool
I can corroborate this as well firsthand. Shit had its amazing highs but set me back years and nearly tore apart everything in the process. It’s just not worth it
To all you bi/gay/etc younglings out there, never get stuck with crazy dick.
Vasectomies can help. But be prepared to move, change your number, and switch jobs.
You mean the ancient far eastern peace symbol? So romantic.
Yes, but maybe rotated 45 degrees for no reason.
The Windmill of Friendship also boosts love!
The question that leaps to my mind is why would that idea have occurred to her in the first place?
Obligatory “this some young people shit”.
Young people do and say stupid shit to come off as edgy and the vast majority of them don’t actually mean it and regret it later in life.
As to your question, that’s why you date people, to see if they’re good, for you and otherwise. You don’t go “red flag!” -> napalm!!!, you evaluate contexts and repeat occurrences of perceived wrongs.
That being said, it’s a huge red flag and you don’t need a repeat occurrence to end the relationship.
Sure, but this is also a weird miscommunication. Why do this crazy trust exercise when you can instead have honest conversations? This sounds like the relationship is going to be based on proving yourself to the other instead of genuinely getting to know them.
If I received this, I’d show them me deleting it from all my devices and ask them to never do anything like that again, because you never know what could be exposed in a breach. I’d also tell them if any of that was genuine, we would need to end the relationship.
…and then recover the deleted file.
Sounds like she is making a “joke” in poor taste while also fishing for your take on the things she is joking about.
or perhaps it’s something sexual. Power imbalance Idk.
RED FLAG.
No sane person does things like that.
Absolutely insane.
Just get a tattoo of their name like the rest of us.
Preferably a face tattoo
But with a cross and a white circle within 😘
Yeah. Who would trust to give someone else video evidence that could be used to ruin their entire life? That’s crazy.
Yeah, I don’t understand what they’re getting out of it. Here’s my pros/cons list:
Pros:
- trust?
Cons:
- if you break up, they can screw you
- if there’s a data breach, you can get screwed
- they accidentally leave their phone unlocked
- send phone for repair and the tech sees the video
- they accidentally send it to someone else, mistaking it for another
That doesn’t seem very balanced to me… Instead of mutually assured destruction (assuming this is reciprocated), just be a good BF/GF? Why isn’t that enough?
She is treating the relationship and trust as transactional. No bueno.
Wait for another hack on a cloud service then put it online and claim ignorance.
