how do I accept I'll never know why any employer rejected me? - eviltoast

I’m finding the hard way that finding another job is a grind: you invest time reading what they want to hire, you write a CV and an application.

Most of the time you don’t get an answer, meaning you are that irrelevant to them. Most of these times it is YOU the one who has to ask if they decided for or against. On the limited times they write you back, it’s a computed generated BS polite rejection letter.

I asked one of them how many candidates they considered and why they rejected me, but that only made them send me another computer generated letter.

I’d like to know how close I was and in what ways I can become a more interesting candidate, but nobody is going to give me a realistic answer.

It sucks having to need them more than they need you. And I should consider me lucky, because I have a job, but jesus christ, I feel for those who have to do this without stable income or a family that offers them a place to stay…

  • MajorHavoc@programming.dev
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    This is a good list. Another, often overlooked is:

    Sometimes we just get incredibly unlucky and interview at the same time as someone wildly unusually more qualified.

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      someone wildly unusually more qualified.

      Or at least someone who lied big enough on their resume to pretend that they’re wildly more qualified.

      In my experience the people who do the hiring can’t fucking tell the difference.

      I really hate the whole “you need to inflate what you did on your resume” because it’s just fucking lying.

      You know what’s a fucking really valuable thing in this world that gets shit on: Having a fucking sense of humility and of a keen knowledge of your own limitations. Having that being viewed as a negative is fuck stupid and how we get fuck stupid people running the show.

      EDIT: I accidentally the whole word

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        2 months ago

        I could list ‘works with wildly dangerous substances in a public environment’ or ‘drug dealer’ and both are technically accurate.

        I work at a petrol station and between caffeinated drinks, the medical aisle and cigarettes, I sell a lot of drugs. Dangerous substances being the 100,000 litres of aggressively flammable fluid we stand on all day.

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        2 months ago

        I’ve been on both sides of this and when you’ve spent the whole day talking to a dozen people who all seem competent enough to do the job, you go with the person that either has a little more (or more relevant) experience, or whoever you enjoyed talking to the most.

        I’m a huge dork, so if you happened to mention something like D&D or Fallout during the interview, you’re probably going to get it. (Assuming everyone is equally qualified.)

        But at the same time, I’d never mention anything like that at an interview, because I wouldn’t expect the interviewer to appreciate it.

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          Sure, but it’s perfectly legit to use that to put a plus next to social skills or works well with team.

          I’ve definitely dinged people who were too robotic - you do have to interact to successfully do your job.