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  • Microw@lemm.ee
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    8 months ago

    I havent read the article, but from the heading and the teaser of it it seems to be a personal opinion piece of what she would prefer and asking other women about it.

    Where exactly does she actively insult all men?

    • UndercoverUlrikHD@programming.dev
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      8 months ago

      Where exactly does she actively insult all men?

      The part about saying she would prefer being alone in the woods with an animal that would maul and eat her alive than being with [insert trait you were born with].

      If you don’t think it’s insulting, switch out the word “men” with gay/jew/trans or any other group of people and ask if those people would feel insulted.

      It’s a statement that very likely would be removed by moderators and gotten you banned on certain instances on Lemmy if you did. I honestly don’t believe you’re asking that question in good faith.

      • Infernalism@lemmy.world
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        8 months ago

        I can’t say that I blame her and I’m a guy. Besides, you know she’s just being over the top to make a point. Take five seconds, look at what she’s really saying and stop looking for reasons to be angry at her.

        • UndercoverUlrikHD@programming.dev
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          8 months ago

          I was merely replying to the other person who seemed to be arguing in bad faith.

          I don’t really have much interest the online gender debate. From the few tidbits I’ve seen, it’s not a healthy debate and it doesn’t align with anything I’ve seen in real life in Norway.

        • tory@lemmy.world
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          8 months ago

          You yourself have completely ignored the argument you’re responding to in order to chastise about arguing with a bad take.

          It’s looping upon itself and it all starts with one bad take. Maybe you can accept bad faith arguments are bad and move on?

        • Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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          8 months ago

          “I don’t feel comfortable being alone at night in the ghetto” = reasonable statement

          “I don’t feel comfortable around black people” = being over the top to make a point.

          It’s not okay and she should be shunned for saying such things.

          • CileTheSane@lemmy.ca
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            8 months ago

            “I don’t feel comfortable being alone in the woods with a stranger” = reasonable statement

            “I don’t feel comfortable around men in public” = not what was said.

        • UndercoverUlrikHD@programming.dev
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          8 months ago

          It’s too big of a group to generalise. Your seemingly utter lack of understanding will only help drive the wedge between the genders even further.

          It’s genuinely sad to see how annoyed and bitter some of my older male relatives have become due to people like you acting as if only 1 gender matter. Back in the days they would have called themselves feminists, but now their perception is that that group hates them instead.

    • gmtom@lemmy.world
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      8 months ago

      Okay, let’s reframe this to be about a different specific group.

      Let’s say this woman wrote this exact same opinion piece, but instead of it being about men in general, it was about black men specifically.

      And she is just saying that she would rather take her chances with a wild animal than be alone with a black man. Is that perfectly okay and not insulting/demanding to black men in your eyes?

        • Schadrach@lemmy.sdf.org
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          8 months ago

          The issue with your example is that black men are not in a position of power in society

          Power by demographic association is bullshit. Cletus in the trailer park does not wield societal power because a majority of members of Congress are the same color and sex as he is, because they don’t work to protect his sex or color - they work to protect their own economic class and that of their donors/owners.

          The trick is that you can’t take each demographic axis and declare that there is a hierarchy there where one group is the “oppressor” and thus has power over all members of the other groups who are deemed the “oppressed”. And usually the whole point of doing so is to try to fit it into a model of Marxist class conflict, which is only really a passable model for economic class (and accordingly only works for other demographic axis to the degree that they correlate with economic class). There are lots of areas where reality violates the fuck out of said hierarchies, and it leads to either attempts to excuse it or bullshit around it that I like to liken to the epicycles and deferents once used to shoehorn geocentric models of the solar system back into line with observations.

          , while men (as a whole) are the dominant gender in society.

          Hell, look at criminal justice - for nearly every measure where the system appears to favor white over blacks and you would probably call it racist, it also appears to favor women over men (usually to a similar or larger degree) but you would likely not call it sexist because that violates the hierarchy by putting women over men.

          Education is similar, there are studies suggesting that teachers preferentially grade in favor of girls (specifically showing that girls get better grades for similar work but that difference vanishes in standardized testing where the grader cannot consider the sex of the student). Girls outnumber boys in both entering higher education and getting degrees, and have since something like the early 80s - yet we still maintain preferential scholarships and recruitment opportunities for women as opposed to men - usually by just deciding the only fields worth worrying about are the few that remain male dominated.

        • feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world
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          8 months ago

          I’m in a piss-filled trench! The wealthy have the power! Though I am stronger than the average woman, which I acknowledge is a useful trait. Especially for digging trenches with piss seeping into them. Now that’s wielding social power.

    • Hule@lemmy.world
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      8 months ago

      But, I mean, are you acquainted with said bear?

      Are you on terms with each other’s intentions?

      'Cause if you’re in the woods with a stranger, there is a 50 percent chance you’re going to have a bad time. Human or bear.

      Stupid city folk. Comparing a BEAR with a honeybear…

      • CileTheSane@lemmy.ca
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        8 months ago

        A bear predictably would rather have nothing to do with me. If I treat a random bear with respect it will be more likely to treat me with respect than a random man.

        • Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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          8 months ago

          I dk, did it have any cocaine or do I have food on me?

          Though that would also apply to a human.