What's the most absurd thing you've seen someone refuse to do because of toxic masculinity? - eviltoast
  • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Basic hygiene.

    cause being clean was for women and (insert homophobic slur here)

    He only “cleans” himself like twice a year, and even then under protest and not fully, because the doctor told him he wont be let in the building if he came in dirty and smelling like BO and shit anymore… and that cleaning is basically a 5 minute shower where he rubs a cloth under his arm pits.

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        1 year ago

        Sadly, no exageration.

        And yes, the smell is even worse than you can imagine.

        Had the misfortune of entering his bedroom one day and his sheets were black (they were originally beige…), and stiff, and cracked when he sat on them.

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          1 year ago

          Had a dude in my division on a US submarine like this. Stupidly gross. Ended up having a medical order that basically made him shower every day under supervision from our doc to ensure he bathed. Imagine the dude you mentioned but enclosed in a metal tube under the ocean for months at a time.

          • CentauriBeau@lemmy.world
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            1 year ago

            Shower parties aren’t a thing anymore? In my days scumbags were assisted in their shower by a few larger shipmates and various brushes. It usually only took one to convince them to mind their smell in such cramped quarters.

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              1 year ago

              Post 9/11 there were sweeping changes and a few high visibility hazing incidents that put a hard stop to that kind of bullshit. Not entirely a bad thing but I know what you mean.

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          Holy fucking shit. Does he have serious mental illness? I’ve never seen or heard of someone being even remotely like that and not have some form of mental illness. Dude needs some kind of therapy either way, goddamn.

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            1 year ago

            Refusing to do normal human tasks to the point where it interferes with your ability to meet your life goals is sort of definitionally mental illness.

          • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world
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            1 year ago

            Nope, no mental illness.

            Just grew up in a house where it was normalized and unshamed, apparently. Which is why the only thing that can make him “shower” is the doctor visit, under threat of not seeing the doctor/getting refills if he didnt.

            • Growing up in a house where something unhelpful is normalized is essentially a mental illness. His brain is wired incorrectly for normal social behavior. He could rewire it with a lot of effort and attention. Being unable to do so, or even realize there’s a problem, is part of the illness.

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                Yeah idc how you spin it bathing 2 times per year and having sheets so dirty they’re black and crack when they move is serious mental illness.

                If his home was like that growing up it just means his parents had a mental illness as well.