i wouldn’t find anything common with a 25 year old myself. i think it would be less of an issue if the younger was 30+. obviously the older you are the wider the acceptable gap. once both parties are 35+ i think the gap doesn’t matter at all.
It’s weird, but not NEARLY as weird as your obsession with age-gap relationships.
How many accounts are you going to get banned on this question?
I’m going to go with bad, it makes me feel bad
My age gap is only 9 years but I was 22 at the time and I turn 40 this year and looking back I’m thinking “where were all the adults who were supposed to give me good advice??” Instead of encouraging me into a wildly imbalanced relationship which has been incredibly damaging to me
It has zero impact on my life therefore I don’t care.
I think it’s kinda weird and likely indicates that one or both have some unresolved parental issues. I even may silently judge, but it’s none of my business otherwise.
It’s like having an allergy to 8+ classes of medication in the chart including “cardiac arrest” for Bendryl. Get the DSM-V.
I’d even remove the “may” from the statement and say that I will silently judge but its none of my business so within a minute I’ll have forgotten that they exist.
I say may, only because there are edge cases and exceptions to the rule. Few and far between I’ll grant you.
Still, unresolved parental issues need a partner too, so no skin off my nose…
Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
Weird for sure. Why do you keep on asking this question in different ways on different accounts? Are you trying to justify it? Is it a fetish?
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I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it.
It’s also almost universally something that the people involved cannot take outside advice on. It seems to be one of those things that must be experienced personally.
Thats really well put
It might be fine for the moment but if the relationship stays long term it will be hard when one partner starts to like age and degrade a lot quicker than the other. In the end one might be ill and on the way to death while the other one has quite a bit of time ahead of them. I think that can strain a relationship in the long run
With my hands.
Are you seeking validation, or condemnation?
I’d have some questions for the 46 year old. Mainly “can’t find someone your own age who’s naive enough to put up with your shit?”.
Call it ageism, but at 40 I can’t look at a 25 year old and see an equal adult. That’s still a kid in my head even if legally and practically speaking they’re an adult. I see a lot of dudes my age and older going after 20-25 year olds because their abusive tactics don’t work on older women.
Very telling that you think 20-25 year old women don’t have agency. I see that as a form of sexism.
Where do I say anyone doesn’t have agency? Check your assumptions, they’re causing you to make wrong inferences.
That’s is so totally my ex wife. I was 17 and she was thirty.
Now I’m nearly 40 and over the years it’s been quite obviously why she needed 17 year old.
I’ve dated women a bit older than sense then but it’s different if I’m 30 and they are 50. It’s not the same power imbalance
People in different stages of life like that generally don’t have a ton to relate on. Can it work? Sure. Does it usually work long term? Nah
The older one of them is the less either need to worry about long term
It’s not about the age gap. They’re adults. The same rules apply to any relationship. If nobody’s being manipulated, abused, taken advantage of or harmed, then people need to mind their own business.
