he is so good - eviltoast
  • subiaco@lemmy.ml
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    15 hours ago

    I was married for well over a decade. I can be in a senior living place. Been single for 6 years since divorce. Only been with 3 people. Didn’t loose virginity til 30s for stupid religious reasons. As an atheist I feel like I lost a lot of good time.

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    14 hours ago

    Apparently I’m doing it wrong. I’m gay and well into my adulthood but can count my sexual partners on one hand.

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    1 day ago

    I don’t get it.

    Is this just saying gay guys have a lot of partners? Is this funny?

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      It’s saying that all men are promiscuous/easy. Not a whole lot of distinction there.

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        20 hours ago

        Which is a stereotype I’m just tired of. Can we please have gay guys in media that are just normal? Can we not get more Pete Buttigieges?

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          alternatively gay men have our own culture and “normal” is conformance… i don’t want to fit into someone else’s box. gay men are by and large more sexual, and that’s not bad. in fact that’s great! people should strive to be more like us: sex is fun, just do it

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        … It is saying gay men are more promiscuous than straight men.

        Straight Guy: 10 sex partners woo!

        Gay Guy: (mocking, overly grandiose congratulations)

        … The gay guy is just… represented by a picture of a woman, because she is nailing the pose/expression.

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          19 hours ago

          It’s not saying they’re more promiscuous, just that scoring men is easy. It’s supply vs demand. Regardless, the whole thing is useless as individuals are different and it’s such a broad generalization (of shit that doesn’t matter and is nobody else’s business) that it fails to meet any requirements of humor.

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            19 hours ago

            see my reply to sugar_in_my_tea for more of my take on this, but yes I do agree that it is a broad generalization and … well really, either my way or your way of interpreting it, it isn’t really that funny.

        • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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          20 hours ago

          It’s simple:

          1. Men want more partners
          2. Women want fewer partners
          3. Gay men have more partners (see 1)

          The takeaway is if you want more partners, be into men.

          • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.zip
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            19 hours ago

            … It is alluding to an old and persistent stereotype that gay men are more likely to be highly promiscuous and basically go home with a different dude from the gay bar every night.

            This stereotype itself hugely played into the ‘Gay Panic’ during the onset of GRIDS/AIDS. AIDS was originally called Gay Related ImmunoDeficiency Syndrome because it initially popped up mostly amongst gay men, and the media and culture at the time largely presented it as a scourge from God meant to punish the gays for their evil ways.

            I have known a good number of gay men, and at least anecdotally, sure I’ve known a few who were quite permiscuous, and they’d be the ones to make this kind of meme/joke with a degree of self aware irony, but the vast majority were monogamous and would basically be either moderately or significantly offended at anyone making this joke, and would say that the aforementioned promiscuous gay guys were doing more harm than good by perpetuating the stereotype by making the joke, even ironically.