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  • everyone just says take it easy, which I can do while my parents are alive, but that’s not going to be much longer. I need to find a life that doesn’t trigger burnout, because I’m not going to survive another one.

    Yeah, I am in a similar situation right now. I have been a NEET for over a year at this point, because of the executive dysfunction caused by autistic burnout.

    I am sustained only by my mother. But I realize this is an unsustainable lifestyle. And risk of future consequences catching up to me for burning through my savings instead of building capital, skills, and relationships makes me anxious.

    Although technically nowadays I am relatively well off, and could probably live this way for another year.

    So far, I haven’t seen a way to treat it, everyone just says take it easy

    I didn’t manage to successfully treat it yet.

    But I think the main idea is reducing stimulation as much as possible, and live a more boring life. Autistic burnout is a product of sensory overwhelm, so to fix this you need sensory deprivation, like lying with closed eyes with ear plugs in complete silence and darkness.

    Less extreme ways would be less socializing, less meeting new people, less sunlight, less notifications, less emotionally loaded content online.

    Overall just listen to yourself what you find exhausting or too difficult right now, and don’t do it.

    The issue with following through though is that ADHD demands constant stimulation, because of severe lack of baseline dopamine. So sitting in complete silence and darkness is physically painful for ADHD brain.

    And I guess that’s the curse of being AuDHD, unfortunately.



  • I always select other and type in a minus sign or something. I am not doing unpaid labor of highlighting what’s wrong with YOUR publicly traded for-profit corporation to help YOU earn more money by screwing us over. It’s just not fair to help out a corporation for free that would never help out you for free, and would actually do all the agressive capitalist tactics in the book to extract more from you.

    And that’s if any of them even care to read this feedback, since they only care about shareholders’ feedback nowadays, not UX. Otherwise we wouldn’t have enshittification.

    I am still happy to help out for free if it’s a non-profit or privately owned company, and/or helpful, or a FOSS project. They deserve that stuff.




  • CBT. But I never really thought about it, I just went to whatever therapist my psychiatrist recommended, and she happened to be CBT-qualified.

    I did schema therapy for cPTSD previously, but unfortunately it made my mental health worse, because therapist wasn’t neurodivergence-aware, and pushed me to do stuff that caused me autistic shutdowns (like socializing or exercising. We didn’t know those were autistic shutdowns) until those accumulated into autistic burnout with executive dysfunction.

    By the way, autistic and ADHD burnouts look very similar to depression, but are treated very differently, and unfortunately most psychs/therapists don’t know that, and are unsuccessfully keep treating the wrong thing.




  • That kind of applies to most beliefs. People aren’t rational, we are motivated reasoning machines. The key is to get to understand emotions causing people to believe wild stuff. People are far less combative when you are curious and empathetic about personal experiences that led them to their opinions, not fact-checking them. This way you can have a normal conversation with basically anyone on the political spectrum.


  • I don’t know any good suggestions for you. I got lucky and found out I have undiagnosed, heavily masked AuDHD only 3 years into unsuccessful treatment of depression and cPTSD. Switched a lot of psychiatrists and psychotherapists in the meantime, until I stumbled on an AuDHD psychiatrist, who diagnosed me, and refered to a neurodivergent therapist.

    But I agree with you totally this medical system is a mess, most mental health professionals have zero clue what they are doing. Neurodivergence awareness is in the negatives.

    I was treated for cPTSD and negative beliefs about myself like incompetence or or unlovability or hiding emotions for so long, without me or therapist understanding true cause or treating it.

    Psychiatrists also had really big aversion towards diagnosing me with more than one illness. Although comorbidity is like very common. Everyone just slapped “depression” and prescribed SSRIs, because that’s simplest, meanwhile the full, complex picture of my problems is cPTSD/borderline PD, OCD, AuDHD, depression, and anxiety.