One of the most infuriating things - eviltoast
  • pixxelkick@lemmy.world
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    27 days ago

    An excuse removes responsibility.

    A reason does not.

    “You are excused” means you no longer are responsible for the outcome.

    “I literally wasn’t present when it happened, so I’m not responsible for the outcome” < excuse, which can be valid

    “I knew what was going to happen, here is why I did it for a good reason” < reason

    Example: three kids are present, 2 are graffiti’ing the back of a house

    When caught, 1 kid says “I was trying to stop them, they wouldn’t listen”. This is an excuse, they’re claiming they aren’t at fault and not responsible for the graffiti.

    Another says “the home owner deserved it, he’s an asshole”, this is a reason as they are clearly not avoiding responsibility.

    When you try and use an excuse to get out of something thar you clearly are responsible for, that’s when you will get served the “I dont want an excuse” line.

    • FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world
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      27 days ago

      Not only was this well explained, but the short segments are great for my ADHD-phobia of large blocks of text

      • aimizo@lemmy.world
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        25 days ago

        Ohhh damn that’s why I read the whole thing. I usually scroll past walls of text in the comments.

    • leftzero@lemmynsfw.com
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      26 days ago

      When you try and use an excuse to get out of something thar you clearly are responsible for, that’s when you will get served the “I dont want an excuse” line.

      Or when they don’t really want an explanation and just want you to admit fault and ask for forgiveness.