Having no needs that anyone else can leverage against me.
Some stability in my life and a friend who gives good hugs.
Call me cute uwu
Ok, cutey
Financial freedom
A job that: I’d love, is at a desk, pays well, is project based, asks me to set my own goals, holds me accountable, makes me feel like I’m contributing something positive for other people.
Right now, I would feel more fulfilled in life with something like that.
Ugh, how to tell a depressed dog person I want three cute catgirl girlfriends…
Hah, I made this username as tribute to the best dog I ever had. We put her down 2 years ago today. Depression was something we had in common. Her sigh was more recognizable than her bark. When she passed we had to get our aging cat a new friend and got her the most skittish little kitten pal. They get along ok, bout the same as with the dog.
Eitherway, it’s just cats from now on. The dog took up too much space in my heart and don’t want to have to make room for another.
Good luck with 3 catgirls, tho. If they are anything like my cat they will leave a mark.
Getting paid without having to work.
If I didn’t have a job, I’d probably still work, and I’d probably be working partly for money, partly for something to do. I just wouldn’t be answering to someone else. I think “work” is misunderstood. It doesn’t have to be a bad experience, but I understand it often is. I wish more people had jobs they liked, I think that’s a better solution.
If I didn’t have a job, I’d probably still work, and I’d probably be working partly for money, partly for something to do. I just wouldn’t be answering to someone else. I think “work” is misunderstood. It doesn’t have to be a bad experience, but I understand it often is. I wish more people had jobs they liked, I think that’s a better solution.
Since hitting my 30s I’ve started getting really invested in middle aged man shit like sports and history podcasts. It’s a cliche and basic in its own way but I’m genuinely surprised by the amount of joy these relatively simple things are bringing me. Especially when I could not have been less interested in sports as a youngster.
Yeah, never been a big football fan my entire life. After starting a serious career I kinda got swept up into it.
I realized in my early 20s I do actually enjoy spectating when I started following e-sports. I was disaffected for a while when that whole space got taken over by influencers, though.
To me it comes down to story lines. I love a great story, as we all do, and professional competition you get to see them unfold in real time. You get to root for your side as it happens and then connect with the people who were there too.
So, hoping to expand my list of topics for small talk football seemed like an easy win. I dunno, not everyone needs social lubricant but it helps for me to have something to ease my anxiety.
I still am a bit behind on all the mechanics but started playing fantasy and it helps get more fimilar with the players.
People reading this probably think I’m a real doofus because this comes natural to them. For me though, it’s like discovering a whole new genre of music and getting to hear the hits for the first time.
I had a very similar experience.
Comparing my TV habits to my partner’s I came to the conclusion that following sports is actually very similar to following a soap opera or reality show: you as the viewer are trying to predict the dynamics between the characters and what the outcome will be from a limited selection of possible outcomes. I think it’s the combination of it being unpredictable - you don’t know who will win - but also bounded in terms of possibilities (someone is going to win). That combination lets you kind of switch off your brain while watching it whilst at the same time being pure drama.
Not sure if that makes sense but thanks for reading my wacky theory!
No, this is how my wife describes it, lol.
cute girl to hug
Never needing to work again and actually having energy to do things would probably do the trick.
We can be friends
It helps, but then you have to supplant your own meaning life, or one can very quickly spiral into doing nothing and becoming depressed. Capitalism sucks, but work doesn’t; it gives us direction and purpose.
My friend, I assume, and I find plenty of meaning in accomplishing simple tasks and finding interesting ways to express ourselves. No labor needed. Only little rabbit holes to constantly fall into.
Edit: btw I don’t approve of all the downvotes you got. A lot of meaning can be found in, exhausting, intense, hard work. Most of that is stripped away by being forced to do it, though.
Life stability and security. If all of my bills and debts were taken care of, I would be happy. I love my job as a welder and enjoy what I do. I look forward to the new work week on Monday morning.
I would continue working as a welder, even if I didn’t have to worry about money and bills.
I too wish for the Star Trek Universe.
You wouldn’t mind toiling for gold-pressed latinum?
Whats standing in the way of that personally?
A stable career path, a loving relationship, and permanent housing.
More concise: Stability.
It’s all I ever wanted and seemingly the only thing I can never have even since childhood. I move every 2 years on average and since adulthood that’s been from basement apartment to basement apartment and now to a garage with no end in sight… I finally got to the point where I could consider buying a house and then COVID, WFH, and the invesestment parasites all blew up at once and took that away from me… I gave up on the relationship bit years ago.
Just one day without tinnitus would make me happy.
Take care of your ears.
Mine eventually (after years) faded into the background and now it only really bothers me if I’m in a quiet place.
Can’t emphasize this enough.
Just live in a loud environment! Oh god I wish I could know silence again. Nothing like going out into nature and you hear a ringing the whole time
A friend that both plays the same video games I like so we can play together and also fucks me.
Oh yes, this might do.
Ground rules:
- Loser sucks
- Git gud if you want that chastity off.
- Winner buys dinner.
Are we doing this? Be gentle.
Gentle? But babe, I just lost to Promised Consort Radahn 157 times in a row; I need to vent that anger.
We’re going to need some lube
Condoms has lube right?
bummer I was gonna offer the first part but i fear it’s contingent on the second part
Probably a loving partner, and enough therapy to be able to have a healthy relationship. But that’s a lot of work, so I mostly try to be happy in my solitude.
It’s a lot of work for sure. Good luck to you 🙂 🤍
Thanks. Trying to fix myself up more first
Sounds like a solid plan!
I’m a person who enjoys their solitude. I know my partners not the same but I also know there are other people who very much like to stay to themselves. Maybe you can find someone who you can both be in solitude together with.
That would be great, but I’m pretty bad at meeting new people so 🤷
Same. Working on boundaries and seeing some improvement. Definitely not where I want to be, but much better than where I used to be.
I’m definitely worse lol
His name is
H1Jack
Cadillac
on the track.
He’s getting back
in the black
on the attack
blocking flak
making you yak
yo slimy gak
like ipecac
cause you whack.
But in his pack
we got no lack
with H1 Jack.