Older women, women with weight changes or visible disabilities, or transfolk of Lemmy - how has the male gaze changed for you? - eviltoast

Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    5 months ago

    It’s one of those things where I can sort of get an idea but never know for sure, because to try to place their reaction in my mind would be to assume it without having actually read their mind, even though the differences between how it looks when you’re gazing for one reason versus another is usually consistent. For example, the other day someone was staring at me, and I thought it was the gaze of the hots until they revealed they were just daydreaming about the fact we were matching clothes, so one never really knows.

    • Clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      5 months ago

      That’s funny! I suppose you’re right; unless he’s drooling and doing AWOOGA eyes it could be something else.