Have you got any weird questions for the opposite gender? - eviltoast

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  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    5 months ago

    If that’s the gist of it, why does it tend to be secretive? It doesn’t strike me as the kind of thing that would inspire people to be low-profile about.

    • Klnsfw 🏳️‍🌈@lemmynsfw.com
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      5 months ago

      There are many reasons for secrecy.

      Showing that you know how to keep a secret shows that you’re trustworthy.

      There are also certain rites of passage that are more striking if you don’t know what to expect (but it’s always benevolent).

      Also, as it’s a place where speech is totally free, it makes it easier to open up. For example, if we’re having a discussion about LGBTQIA+ rights, I can share my experiences as a bi person to enrich the discussion, and I don’t have to worry about being outed.

      Finally, in Europe, the memory of Nazi persecution is still vivid, and today’s far right hates us too. Secrecy, or at least discretion, is a protection.

      But I have to admit that it raises suspicions and feeds conspiracy theories. So secrecy has its downside