Interesting that you keep saying ‘civilian death’ and not ‘child.’ Seems like we’re talking about two very different things.

Maybe so. But personally, I believe that all civilian deaths are equally tragic whether of a child, an old man, or a mother. In fact, I would object if someone said “X dead women is acceptable, but X dead children is unacceptable”, because personally I believe that whatever X you choose should be age-independent. YMMV