This goes out to my homies on the .ml instances! - eviltoast
  • whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    7 months ago

    I talked to an overtly gender critical person like, a week or two ago?? A thing of the past? Crazy.

    Calling gender critical people “soft transphobia” is such a huge misnomer. They’re not transphobia-lite, they’re STRONGLY transphobic but they are very skilled at crafting arguments in a way that don’t appear transphobic to people who aren’t versed in the rhetoric.

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      7 months ago

      what i meant by that is blahaj is no longer being explicitly targeted for harassment and we don’t see as many gender critical types as we used to, not that they’re gone. The problem with moderation is that we can only ban someone for transphobia once we’ve seen them being transphobic which means other people will see it too, also if someone never interacts with blahaj we’re less likly to see them to ban them in the first place, so comms on instances other than blahaj are more likely to have transphobes on. There’s also some limitations in the mod tools because mods can’t forward users to the admins for instance wide bans after giving them comm bans so we have to use a matrix chat to message the admins asking them to ban them which is clunkier and occasionally some people slip through the cracks.

      Out of curiousity what was the username of the person you had an argument with and what comm was it on? Because if they still haven’t been banned or just got a comm wide ban by mistake I can message the mod chat to get them permanently banned instance wide.

      But also yeah, the “soft transphobia” thing was badly phrased on my part, you’re right, i’ll edit the comment.

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        7 months ago

        That person ended up deleting their account, I don’t recall their username. And I’m pretty sure they weren’t in blahaj.zone, but thanks for offering to look into it.

        I hear you that mods have worked to curb transphobia on blahaj.zone, unfortunately I still see it around in my general experience using Lemmy and people like this other commenter unwittingly (or wittingly) fail to notice the red flags.

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          7 months ago

          we do our best to get rid of the committed transphobes, but unfortunately there’s also far too many people in the world in general who think they’re great trans allies but refuse to notice the anti trans dogwhistle and talk down to trans people who point them out. Unfortunately, we can’t really deal with them unless we pivoted to become a siloed off walled garden instance, and honestly the will just isnt really there from either the majority of the users or the admins to do that.

          If seeing these types bothers you a lot, i’d reccomend maybe checking out hexbear.net because they boot these types out at the drop of a hat, and basically just chat to each other in their own local comms - the only thing is that along with all the pro trans stuff they post they’re also very pro china and pro-veganism, occasionally anti-anarchist (despite anti anarchist sectarianism being banned and anti anarchist posts and comments getting removed and users occasionally banned for them there;s a sort of vibe that anarchism is only accepted as long as its not overtly critical of anti western countries in the wrong ways, also they have a whole thing of making fun of “reddit anarchists” which frequently bleeds over into just being plausibly deniable sectarian posting), quite anti-trot and very anti-liberal and arent really willing to budge on these positions so if that doesnt mesh with you you might not like it.