“No you” is actually a valid point in a disagreement - eviltoast

Not the exact wording but the general premise behind it is a fair counter point in any disagreement. When someone is attempting to gain a higher moral authority, bringing up any hypocrisy is a reasonable thing to do. If pointing out hypocrisy is then dismissed, it is reasonable to assume the other person is not arguing in good faith and therefore should no be taken seriously.

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    This has a name, “Tu Quoque” and it is, in fact, a logical fallacy.

    If someone calls you out for kicking puppies, it is not a fair counterpoint to say that they kick puppies too. Their actions are immaterial to your actions. If the question is one of morality, your actions are immoral regardless of whether or not your accuser is similarly immoral.

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        Pretty much. Whataboutism could be any other bad thing, Tu Quoque is “you do too”, so essentially you do the same bad thing.

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      I disagree for one that it is “in fact” a logical fallacy and also that their actions are immaterial to your actions. To make that counterpoint I would have had to have been aware that the person calling out my puppy kicking did in fact kick puppies. You can not say this knowledge is immaterial.

      While you can still conclude that my puppy kicking is immoral it does not serve any purpose because the criticism came from someone equally immoral. I could even argue (if true) that I’m only kicking puppies because I saw them doing it and I didn’t know it was immoral.

      “No you” is similar to “don’t throw stones in glass houses” and is a reasonable point.

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        I disagree for one that it is “in fact” a logical fallacy and also that their actions are immaterial to your actions.

        You’re free to disagree, but it doesn’t change that you’re wrong. If the argument is that your puppy kicking is immoral, it is a fact that your accuser’s actions are immaterial. (Obviously we are presupposing that we agree what is immoral, and that puppy kicking fits that understanding.)

        Assume there is Person A or Person B, the first kicks puppies, the second does not. Your argument holds that your puppy kicking would be immoral if Person B accused you, but somehow not immoral if Person A accuses you. That’s obviously not the case; therefore, person A’s actions are immaterial.

        Tu Quoque is a fallacy because it does not actually address the argument made, it is a form of ad hominem attack. Given a valid argument, true premises will necessarily lead to a true conclusion. Fallacious arguments are not valid in structure; therefore you can’t know if your conclusion is true.

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          No this is not my argument, I see what you are saying and agree with the premise of actions being immoral prior to any conversation about them. My argument is more about someone arguing in bad faith than morality.

          If person B (who does not kick puppies) accuses me of being immoral, then there is little debate that the criticism is appropriately being delivered in good faith. If person A (who also kicks puppies) accuses me of being immoral, then I am free to use the “no you” argument as a litmus test for whether or not the person is arguing in good faith. If they accept that their actions are also immoral then a good faith debate or conversation can appropriately take place. If they refuse to acknowledge their own puppy kicking is immoral then they can basically fuck off. I completely agree that neither conversation changes the fact kicking puppies is immoral no matter how fun (joke).

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            A hypocritical and dishonest interlocutor can still make a valid and sound argument. An ad hominem, whether Tu Quoque or otherwise, remains fallacious.

            Whether you’re being called immoral by Person A or B doesn’t change the facts. Person A may be a bad person, they may not be the person you want to hear the argument from, but that doesn’t change that they’re right.

            In propositional logic you only address one prong or aspect at a time. So using my example you could say yes, I am immoral for kicking puppies, but then by your logic, so are you. That wouldn’t be an ad hominem because you aren’t trying to invalidate their argument with your personal attack/logical argument.

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              Correct yes, I can see there are two ideas here. We both agree immorality is independent of conversation and no matter what happens in the conversation it will not make the immorality untrue. The point I am trying to articulate may be more whether or not it is appropriate for someone who is simultaneously kicking puppies to point out how immoral it is that I am kicking puppies, while refusing to acknowledge the immorality of their own puppy kicking from a social point of view. Thoughts?

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                Thoughts?

                Not particularly. Depends on the subject matter. For instance, a politician might be critical of current campaign finance laws being too lax, but still take advantage of said laws. In that situation it wouldn’t be hypocritical to say I want to change X, but until it changes, I’m following the same rules as everyone else.

                Or maybe they are a hypocrite, I don’t know. They could be the worst person to raise the argument, but my only point was that it doesn’t invalidate the argument.

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    It’s considered a formal fallacy. That doesn’t mean it’s necessarily a bad point in context, it just isn’t the point it’s often presented as. If someone is making a long speech about how X is bad, when they do it themselves all the time, then you’re probably right to discount their arguments - if they’re not stupid, they’re dishonest. But pointing out the hypocrisy is technically “off topic” if you’re arguing whether X is actually bad.

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      Also, only really works if they are “attempting to gain a higher moral authority” (as OP says). As if that’s the only reason people would argue a point. I think it says something about OP that they take that as a given for arguments. I can immediately imagine scenarios that one can argue against a thing that they themselves participate in.

      “Hey, smoking is bad, kid. Don’t do it.”

      “But you smoke! And I look so cool with a cigarette!”

      “Yeah, it’s a habit that’s very difficult to break and it makes your life worse in every way. I know from experience.”

      “No you.”

      But I agree with your main point,

      But pointing out the hypocrisy is technically “off topic” if you’re arguing whether X is actually bad.

      It’s considered a fallacy exactly for this reason. When you’re debating a thing, you’re way off the map if you think that’s your winning move if you’re arguing in good faith. An argument should be about showing your point is correct, not that you’re better than the other person. But Mr. Wang up there may only view arguments as a competition to be won morally.

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      Yes the argument I’m making is about if it is appropriate for the person to be arguing in the first place without considering their own hypocrisy, not whether x is actually bad so I see what you mean about it being off topic. It’s like them saying everyone leaves their shopping cart in the parking lot and it’s bad but when I do it it’s ok, their point about it being ok when they do it is irrelevant, it’s still bad.

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      It’s considered a formal fallacy.

      you’re probably right to discount their arguments

      You cannot square these two statements. If it’s a fallacy then you are not justified in discounting their argument. They may be a hypocrite, but it doesn’t mean that their argument isn’t both valid and sound. The smoking example by the other reply is a great example.

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        Wrong, you absolutely can. It’s considered a fallacy, logically or formally speaking, because it doesn’t deal with the actual “point”, but casts aspersions on whomever’s motives or fitness to deliver it. If you are strictly debating Topic X then that is technically (or logically, or whatever) irrelevant. In reality, if someone is moralizing at you then their being immoral or amoral is actually pretty significant.

        If any given person is saying [something you’re doing] is morally wrong, then you’d be naturally less inclined to take that feedback from e.g. Hitler. I hope. Formally that is an error, in reality it’s still sort of a reasonable thing to keep in mind.

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          Given a valid structure, true premises must necessarily lead to a true conclusion. A fallacy is an invalid structure; therefore, you cannot know whether or not the conclusion is true. If you can’t know the truth value of the conclusion, you wouldn’t be correct to reject their argument.

          Using the go to example: Plato argues P1) All men are mortal, P2) Socrates is a man, C) Socrates is mortal. Valid structure, sound premises, the conclusion must be true.

          Using the smoking example: P1) Person A claims smoking is dangerous, P2) Person A smokes, C) Smoking isn’t dangerous.

          This argument is invalid in structure because Premise 2 is fallacious. Premise 1 doesn’t connect to Premise 2 to lead to the conclusion. Given no additional information, you would not be able to ascertain the truth value of the conclusion, it may or may not be true using this deductive argument.

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          But if Hitler said, “it’s not right to just go around killing people at random” it wouldn’t be false because he’s Hitler.

          If you don’t trust someone for whatever reason (hypocrisy or what), then the best you can do logically is look more closely at their argument for flaws. Logic doesn’t care about morals or hypocrisy and it’s just not that easy to prove or disprove things. Hypocrites can be right and honest people doing their best to present a good faith argument can be wrong.

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    Very often it’s not exactly the same criticism, and is just deflection - they are hoping to start arguing about whether the accuser’s actions are equivalent, rather than whether their actions are objectively bad.

    For example: A accuses B of allowing poor people to starve to death and B replies that if A cares so much about poor people, why does he want to put taxes up?

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      I do agree that your example is deflection although it is not an example I would describe as not exactly the same. While it has some similarities it is not close enough to exact to be described that way.

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    Pointing out hypocrisy can be relevant, but often is just whataboutism. It is perfectly valid to have different opinions on similar situations, because no two situations are completely equivalent.

    That said, anyone arguing in good faith should be prepared to examine their own biases as well - as long as they really are relevant to the latter at hand.

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    I see a few different ways this could play out, and it highly depends on the specifics of the point being debated. Fundamentally though, pointing out hypocrisy is a good way to criticise the speaker, but it does nothing to refute the point that they are making. It’s a form of ad hominem argument—a term which, contrary to how it’s sometimes used, doesn’t just mean “insulting your interlocutor”, it specifically means that your argument doesn’t address their point, but merely addresses the person making it.

    It could be that they simply didn’t realise they’re being hypocritical. You explaining it might make them realise the breadth of the argument they were making and cause them to reevaluate and realise that the implications of what they were saying were more severe than they previously thought. You haven’t actually addressed their argument, but you didn’t need to. Your goal was to help them realise for themselves that it was wrong. They then update their belief in line with this. (Which, depending on the specifics of the argument, and whether or not they and you are both acting in good faith, might mean the end up completely abandoning the point, or simply redrawing the precise boundaries of the point, or something else.)

    It could be that they realise, and it’s something they either don’t care about, or do care about but don’t see it as refuting their argument. For example, in an argument about addiction, an addict might recognise their addiction and be working on overcoming it, or just be living with it. You pointing out that they’re addicted to [whatever it is] doesn’t really advance the argument at all. Either they’re trying to work on it, or maybe they’ve acknowledged their addiction but don’t really care. Whatever the case may be, how sound their point is is not affected by this quality of them.

    • SuckMyWang@lemmy.worldOP
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      I think it’s a litmus test for if the person is arguing in good faith or criticising with the goal of moral superiority. If a concession can be given by the person being critical after “no you” this shows the criticism really is out of concern and want for improvement rather than simply satisfying the criticisers own indignation.