Parent's Bitter Coffee - eviltoast

At visiting my parent’s this holiday weekend I tired to gently tell my parents that their coffee brew is very bitter. The response I get back is something like, " I like it strong."

I wasn’t too sure how to respond, but then they told me my coffee is to watery. 🤔 I told them it’s not that is watery, but it’s a light roast and not bitter tasting.

So my question is how do you convince someone that bitter coffee is not good coffee? I might bring my scale next time to help measure and perfect the coffee brew there. Maybe even see about cleaning their been grinder, which I think has never been cleaned.

Oh well.

Update: Thanks for all the tips and thoughts. I agree with basically everything posted here and sorry no butter (I fixed the title)

  • Darkscryber@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Simple, just respect their taste. I had friends who grew up with instant coffee and they hated even the best brewed coffet I could make…

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      1 year ago

      I once bought my Dad some nice expensive freshly roasted coffee to try and help him experience something better. I was shocked a couple weeks later when he told me it “didn’t have enough kick” so he was adding cheap espresso grounds to it when he would make it. I gave up on that right there because no amount of logic was going to get through that one.

  • Moops@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Why do you feel you need to convince them of anything? I totally get having your eyes opened to the broader spectrum of coffees available but end of the day it’s a preference based on subjective senses. Let 'em do them, what’s the harm?

  • KickAssDuke@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Taste buds change over years in the same person. Flavor preference holds no logic because people are individuals.

    Just because you like something doesn’t mean other people have to.

  • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    I think you may be SOL.

    If they like coffee this way, that may just be that. And it’s okay. By all means try making them a proper cup of a nice dark roast, but at the end of the day, if they’ve come to expect bitterness outta their morning cup, you ain’t gonna satisfy the habit with something that ain’t terribly bitter.

    • CCMan1701A@startrek.websiteOP
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      1 year ago

      I just tell them it’s too bitter for me and that I don’t want any. They are the ones not letting me enjoy tea instead when I’m there. Lol

  • flicker@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I love bitter coffee. And chocolate.

    Just because it’s not your cup of tea (or coffee) doesn’t make it bad or wrong.

  • empireOfLove@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    how do you convince someone that bitter coffee is not good coffee?

    That’s the neat part; you don’t.

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      1 year ago

      Bitter coffee is also cheaper for a reason, as you can use worse beans and burn them. These beans need to be used as well, so it’s a good thing people like it bitter.

      When it gets weird is when people pay for expensive bitter coffee.

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    1 year ago

    People have different preferences. That’s why light and dark roasts exist. Learn to enjoy more than just your favorite, and encourage others to do the same. Don’t take it personally when someone doesn’t like what you like, and don’t be afraid to state your own preferences. If their coffee is too bitter for you to drink, add a tablespoon or two of water

    But yes, clean the grinder.

  • The Giant Korean@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Are they on the older side? I’ve noticed that my in laws, who are almost 80, like very strongly flavored things, and I suspect it’s because they just don’t taste things as well as when they were younger.

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    1 year ago

    Imagine my disappointment when the story didn’t involve butter.

    If I’m reading this coffee compass correctly, bitter can be caused by over extraction. The solution would be to extract less, which can be done by using more coffee.

    There are lots of variables. The coffee itself, the grind (lots of fines?), the brewing method, etc.

    I agree with others, though. If they like their coffee, let them enjoy it.

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    1 year ago

    Make them better coffee and then don’t comment on it until they ask.

    Most people seem to connect bitter and strong and it’s a hard habit to break out of. People are used to crappy coffee.

    Just getting them to a stage where they buy quality beans and grind them fresh is a big leap, but once they reach that baseline you can introduce roast levels.

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    1 year ago

    Isn’t taste also affected by age? Like eyesight and hearing, it diminishes with age.

    Their coffee might taste to them the way your coffee tastes to you.

  • Empricorn@feddit.nl
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    1 year ago

    Without judging, some people confuse bitter for strong. You should try brewing their coffee different ways that will make it intense, but not bitter to see if they like it better. I’m not an expert, but maybe Chemex? Aeropress? Pour-over?

    That’s all you can do if they end up preferring butter bitter coffee!

    • CCMan1701A@startrek.websiteOP
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      1 year ago

      Well they are about easy when it comes to making coffee. I’m going to use the coffee compass as a guide to see what happens next time I visit.

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    1 year ago

    Catering for years I found that the older the guests were, they really didnt care about the taste as long as it was piping hot! Live and let live.