I’m non-binary, single, and looking for people to date IRL or through mutual connections. When one of my friends and I were playing a video game, he introduced me to one of his friends. I decided out of loneliness and just because I can, without even seeing her face or anything, to go out with me. She said no. Am I a weirdo? An asshole?
Hard to say without knowing the full conversation, but the fact that you refer to her as “random lady”, never met and did so because YOU “were lonely and could” aren’t great signs.
It sounds like you didn’t really know her and only asked her out because it’s what you wanted, not what you think she might want. You need to join more groups and build up your own IRL social circle to deal with being lonely instead of just latching on to a random woman.
I speak from experince and have done this sort of thing myself when I was younger. But you gotta understand it’s not fair to her nor a real solution for your own situation.