What's the most manipulative thing you've ever done? - eviltoast

Even if it wasn’t so much “manipulative”.

  • BrianTheeBiscuiteer@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Took me a while but I learned one of my managers is highly likely to shoot down any idea that isn’t his. So during planning sessions I started describing partial ideas and pretending I didn’t know how to solve the last leg of the problem so he could jump in and say, “Oh, what if we did…” Still kind of pisses me off I have to feign ignorance but since I started doing that things have gone way smoother.

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      1 month ago

      This is a good way to get your ideas implemented, but your manager is always going to be able to take credit. If you are able to develop a situation with your manager where they see you as equal or near equal, they won’t mind if you bring them in on emails or meetings or whatever with their boss, so you can take the credit you are due. Extra credit if you get them to set up the call or meeting with the three of you and then you get to lay it out.

      • bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net
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        1 month ago

        Yeah the problem with that is that the basic reason that they are like that is they are threatened. They have a need they are addressing with shooting down ideas.

        Brian would do better if he addressed that need. I would bet if he started attributing his own expertise to this manager, and started saying things like “wow I’ve learned so much from you” his ideas would be accepted and credited to him. Brian’s success was due to his manager, after all.