@thereisalamp - eviltoast
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  • Us, never. Just like with China you can’t win a land war over here, and a home attack has a greater risk of uniting is against a common enemy.

    Taiwan possibly. Though I don’t think so. Taiwan is much more useful as a political chess piece that China can beat their chests about. They can invoke the island and be offended about support for it whenever they need leverage right now.

    Not to mention it isn’t just the US alone that needs Taiwan and movement there risks a global response.




  • Oh poppy cock. Oregon has some pretty diverse grocery options most of them cheaper than Kroger and Albertsons.

    For example, corvallis, has a winco, Walmart market, grocery outlet, and traders Joe’s, all of which I can easily spend less at than Safeway or Fred Meyer, which is the big Kroger brand in Oregon.

    Then there’s also, university market and natural grocers, 15 minutes down 22 there’s an iga, locally owned chains designed to be close to certain housing, smaller, a little more expensive.

    Then there’s the Asian (like HK) and Indian (like Desi) markets. There used to be a Mexican grocery they’re but it shut down. I’m certain you’ll have one in Portland though. These places have amazing specialty ingredients as well as some great deals on standard stuff.

    Finally there’s a market of choice which is traditionally expensive, but occasionally has some seriously good deals.








  • I completely agree that you need to communicate. But that is outside the issue posed by the previous poster who said that it’s too emotionally taxing to just listen when you want to problem solve. Their comment implies that the conversation has been had, they know their partner just needs to vent, but being the listener their partner needs will cause “compassion fatigue”

    So I attempted to rephrase it so that the “rational problem solver” could satisfy their “need to problem solve in contradiction to what their partner needs” by presenting it in a way that listening, is in fact the solution, to the problem at hand.


  • The problem is 9 times out of 10, your problem solving won’t help because they’ve already thought of the fix or you don’t have enough of the nuance involved to offer a viable solution. So to insist on offering, means that your partner now has to balance your ego and how to tell you “yeah I know” or why your idea won’t work.

    Top the rational thinker, the problem is “I need to vent my emotions in a healthy manner” and the rational solution is “listen” and if the problem transitions from “I need to vent” to “I need help” then you can work on a solution together.