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Cake day: March 1st, 2026

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  • not all supportive communities are toxically positive, and any community as obsessed with “passing” as 4chan might feel comforting in a doomery way but anecdotally every single trans person i know who went down the (smug and self reinforcing) self hating 4chan path has been noticably worse for it and every single one who nanaged to escape that spiral talks exclusively about it as something they regret

    for the record, i do get the appeal - it /feels/ like it’s just painful honesty and, when you are used to not flinching away from painful truths about the word and the systems which shape it, it can feel correct that it should hurt to be trans (especially if you don’t “pass”). the problem is that, in my view, much of the painfulness of being trans or feeling like you don’t “pass” is directed at trans people by cis people - we don’t need to do it for them. you don’t have to set up a headquarters for the passing police in your own head. to not do so isn’t to become part of a “hugbox” - you can be honest and just not police (even when invited to do so) how other people and you yourself align with social expectations of the physical (and other) expressions of gender.

    fuck that person for not understanding and me for getting carried away and writing too much; i just hope you aren’t embracing and perpetuating a community that feels comforting but is doing harm to you because that harm feels more correct to you than being truly and honestly accepted






  • i remember this theory - there were a few issues, if i remember right:

    the most obvious being there isn’t actually a way to know how many people vote red or blue down-ballot (for the very obvious reason that nobody knows how specific people’s ballots look) so the guy was making some wild assumptions,

    which isn’t shocking considering this same guy had run to the news crying wolf about a previous election (which it isn’t as popular to be conspiritorial about) with similarly massaged logic,

    and the very short list of districts which “inexplicably” voted as a block against democrats, if you literally just look at the election history, usually vote as a block and sometimes for republicans - claims it was statistically impossible or whatever really don’t hold up to basic scrutiny,

    genuinely i get it, it would be really comforting (in a way) to explain away trump getting elected again as the result of clandestine actors literally flipping bits or whatever, but they didn’t appear to have done that so please stop credulously believing things like this without taking a few minutes to look into it and check if it actually holds water.

    the dnc annointed deeply unpopular biden to run again and let him make a fool of himself long after it was clear he wasn’t up to it and didn’t have popular support, replaced him with his vp who wasn’t willing to distinguish herself from him on policy and who sought republican votes at the cost of building enthusiastic support from the whole big tent of democrats, literally refused to even record feedback they received specifically about voters being fed up with the genocide of palestinians when canvassing and conducting surveys, etc. and on the republican side they have engaged in very loud very public voter suppression increasingly for a long time - we don’t need to look for hidden (especially trivially disprovable) insight into what happened when there were such obvious reasons








  • i started off using ubuntu back in the day, but these days i refuse to use any of the distros downstream or tied to a for profit company (so not fedora, opensuse, or ubuntu - and by extension mint), and i prefer distros that are used as the base for other distros rather that ones dependant on another distro (so extra not mint, ubuntu, endeavour, or manjaro).

    that leaves, essentially, slackware, arch, and debian.
    i am too lazy to learn slackware, so for my main desktop i use arch and for other machines i own i use debian.

    departing from the original question:
    for new people i mostly recommend cachyos, debian, or bazzite depending on their ability & interest

    i feel that, unlike the other ‘arch but easier’ distros, cachy actually adds something to the arch ecosystem (the optimized packages) and the installer showing videos of the different desktop environments all running on cachy is excellent