I find most of the time I’m trying to claim time back doing something I enjoy. As 95% of my day is shit for work or other people.
So the 2 hours is like a protest of that and actually being a person seperate from the demands.
And I know as soon as I fall asleep. Works back again.
Yeah I will say I was lucky in my mid twenties in what was available to access around me / my town. I’m now 35 and other than a dog shop that has events where I meet a bunch of people with dogs - I don’t have a lot of the same overlaps but am happily married so it wasn’t the goal on where to settle (more what school do we want etc.)
I’m just outside of the NYC area and so can find some weird unique thing with a quick train ride attached.
If you play sports and enjoy training 5k-10k-half marathon groups are a great add to meet like minded people that may have a more favorable split haha. Doesn’t hurt to get the cardio up. But again I would ask - what other interests do you have that are unexplored - that could be interesting to chase. It will be super uncomfortable to take a stab at it. But it’s a win if you do it. A win win if you meet folks while doing it.
Millenial here. Never used online dating. Never used arranged marriages. Never used newspapers.
Dated a bunch. Just met and befriended a lot of people through shared areas of interest. Indoor soccer mixed league / gardening group / dog park / dog events at a local shop.
I also wasn’t creepy and bothered people with trying to get a relationship from these events. Just a chatty comical person. And with regular attendance - bumped into similar people over time and eventually did more personal shit with them and felt out why.
Online dating sort of (to me) turns the act of dating into a hobby or even a profession? and then people land these relationships where they expect something out of the other person. “You need a perfect resume with good line spacing and indentation, if you want connection!”
When I just pursued my hobbies and enjoyment areas and bumped into people who mutually enjoyed those things and would just talk about those things. Like at most seek connection to the things you love and do them with people you like. And then build on those connections. That’s what people really want when they log into profiles.
Note I don’t have any social media other than Lemmy. Haha.
So as a hiker I have a jet boil, msr, and one of those green square stoves from like Coleman and that one has an adaptor for tank propane or those small green bottles.
Was thinking it could be the weight shift of the concrete all at once blowing out the hydraulic in the front leaving it to pour.
“Literature” comes from Latin, and it originally meant “the use of letters” or “writing.” But when the word entered the Romance languages that derived from Latin, it took on the additional meaning of “knowledge acquired from reading or studying books.” So we might use this definition to understand “Literature with a Capital L” as writing that gives us knowledge–writing that should be studied.
Knowledge and intellect is legit in the literature definition?
So essentially literature can’t be “gate keeping” it is what it is. It’s just do you want to study it and gain knowledge / intellect - or nah?
Stocking up on food and supplies.
Water jugs and a hand pump if power becomes unreliable
Easy prep meals that keep. (Small cook times but store able / propane time to cook ratio sort of thought)
Propane camp stove.
We just sort of double or weekly orders and rotate the oldest stuff up into the house from the basement.
Full range Medical kit with gsw treatment options and tourniquet
If extended black outs are something we are faced with you should own a firearm or have a big barky boy (dog lol). Rolling blackouts multi day can lead to some chaotic situations in people.
One of my accounts banned for “my Lu Ouija board spelled CEO. What’s that mean?”
Or something along those lines.
Haven’t been back since. Timeline is essentially accurate to my baby lemmy face here^
Am a dude on thyroid medications - hormonal impacting drugs and hormone variations are fucking brutal.
I talked with my wife to get off BC and we started using condoms again after my ordeal of getting stable with thyroid meds. I was like why would you take that shit when condoms exist.
For folks saying 99% whatever - like my condom busts up 1 in 50 or so. So might be better odds on a med.
Guess it’s perfectly legal to be jailed without reason for 12+ days !
Favorite so far was the guy who was detained for 12 hours - was a citizen - and had no way to show or prove it because they had taken his wallet on the arrest.
Eventually someone checked the wallet he had and was like “oh shit, guess we won’t be deporting him then”. But they had lined up transport and locations by that point. And were deciding how to manage his possessions.
Dude could have just been in El Salvador for no reason like WTF mate?
I will say in multi day hikes I spot every single wild animal, insect, flower etc. though. Probably was our evolutionary advantage that kept our brains around for all those years haha.
For the most part sure. But connection and conversation and intimacy have all improved even in my preferred settings and even my confidence in self of getting things done or remembering things even when on a multi day hike. Which is just tent / walk / water / eat / tent. And no tech.
It’s weirder that I recently was diagnosed as a 35 year old and now see memes everywhere. Knew something was off forever. But was “successful” so disregarded until I couldn’t.
I left however many days ago my Lemmy account says - from being a daily user ^
So it was me that caused it.
I think everyone would benefit from a tool box / wellness discovery session that individual research or time spent with a therapist can offer. Essentially build out a mental health “first aid kit” for yourself in times of emergency. Many don’t - and so their first serious crisis (especially with men) ends violently.
Even if there’s 0 wrong in your life - knowing what things make you well and how to leverage them when you eventually lose someone you care about or have to cope with severe and debilitating grief is important.
Saying you don’t need to buy a med kit unless you have a severed artery sort of means you will be behind the coping and recovery process. This can be accomplished in 1 or 2 sessions with support or individual research.
Just my counter point as someone who did psych screening services - coached people with 0 psych / mental health issues prior out of self harm scenarios and got them in my car or an ambo to go to the hospital. But also never went to or believed in therapy for myself (and had my first session a decade after that job at the age of 35). I should have gone earlier. But I was fine and successful without it. Married / promoted / succeeding in life - So didn’t.
Obviously the man is better than the bear - all he wants from the woman in the woods is for her to live a life of servitude to him as his psuedo mommy, wife, child producer and lover, because he has epic Viking battles he has to deal with…. of taking the trash to the curb, and waiting in traffic to get to work, because therapy is too expensive, or feminine?
Lmao
Somehow I feel that may be the saving mechanism for them right now.
Overextended inventory - turned into straight cash via insurance claims.
Really hurt Perdue pharma - they still are laughing in their mansions.
Yup. When the internet was emerging workplaces were talking like it would revolutionize the workplace and save people time. But instead it just means I’m answering emails 24/7 while still commuting and working 10 hours a day.
Hooray