Oh, so more like you are asking how actualized are your kinks? I think that is a good question. I spent a stupid long time waiting for my sexuality to evolve and turn into what I considered the ‘real’ adult woman sexuality, which involved getting off on taking charge. Like, even though my very earliest sexual fantasies were about being forced (not even sexually, necessarily) and never about anything except that power play stuff, I really truly thought I ought not want it, that it was some sort of unfinished or lazy thing. One day had a revelation that if any of my friends had some kink I’d be so accepting of them, never ever would I think they needed to change, so tried to give myself the same consideration, and am much more in alignment now. So in the scale of acceptance, maybe 8 or so. But I do not agree that everyone ‘vanilla’ is repressing hidden depths of perversity. I think many, probably most people really aren’t. Even those with a healthy sex drive. And no way does everyone have the same levels of general need, it took me 40 years to find a guy who runs as hot as me, get it every day now for about 15 years :)

So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don’t care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it’s more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?

The 1-5 I’d put as:

1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.

2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn’t bother for themselves.

3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be ‘unlocked’, basically, it’s just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.

4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn’t pull at them so hard, and they don’t want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don’t seek out sex specifically, but dates,

5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don’t think of as kinky.

I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don’t prioritize sex or need anything very specific.

6. I’ve done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven’t, and a slap is still faster than a kiss and none of my fantasies are about plain sex, but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:

10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.

9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn’t include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.

8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross

7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it

Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it’s not an even distribution. If you are asking where I’d land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.

That is honestly a great shot!

I guess technically a MYDF (mom you DO fuck) but oh yes really lovely figure.

He looks like he’s hung so well, would feel great! But who the heck took the picture?

OMG thank you so much for not editing your waist into a wasp waist on this one, your natural physique is stunning, so gorgeous. You are really pretty!

Beautiful height and lovely boobs but it looks like you are missing a few ribs!

I get off on being in the other side of this equation and always think it’s such a good example of:

Just because something gets you off, doesn’t mean that’s the way the world should work.

Some guys take these feelings to mean women are submissive in all aspects of life, or worse, should be. That’s a fast track to a bad society. I’m capable, work a professional job, train the dogs, they are more disciplined for me than my husband, it’s not anything I like outside of sexually, comfortable taking care of myself.

But seeing a guy get turned on when I kneel? Holy fuck that is hot.

physically, that’s a toughie. In general, I’m not really into skinny people or muscular men - though buff women are a major plus. Curvier folks tend to catch my eye. I also feel that I have some contrasts between genders - I have higher preference for taller, muscular, energetic women, and shorter, , average men. Also short hair on women and long on men are great - I don’t know why more guys don’t let their hair grow. But the opposites are not real dealbreakers.

This makes sense to me, you like more androgynous and less sharply masculine or feminine people. Also makes sense because people willing to buck gender norms are probably (not absolutely, but probably) more open minded in other ways.

I can’t say it’s common, and wouldn’t ever have considered asking some random good looking guy to join us, but straight guy MFM is probably more common than you think. When men on the internet talk about threesomes they seem to be thinking about 2 women, but I’ve only done the other kind and it seems like way more fun - I’m straight so nothing really exciting about adding another woman, but two guys? So many things you can do whether they are into each other or not.

I do think it’s more common for couples to approach women though, as I have been propositioned by couples and probably all women have.

Somehow your eyes glowing like you are some sort of demon incubus is ridiculously hot, wow.

MFM is two straight guys, one lady. That is fun. I am straight so yes, that means I have done straight threesomes. Have also done some with bi guys, but it’s not a lot different from the perspective of the lady, maybe slightly more relaxed.

FMF I don’t understand - I agree that is probably no fun unless the ladies are bi. But it’s entirely possible to have a good time with two straight guys.

Not really but LemmyNSFW isn’t overrun with them yet. Isolated closeups of anybody’s genitals are not sexy IMO.

People have different builds, and women in particular can have healthy bodies with more (or less) fat depending on how they carry it. Also if you lift you can gain weight but not get bigger, just denser. I really only trust the waist to height measure, and it’s easy to actually measure.

I think you look good but it’s your body, get it into the shape you like!

150 is underweight (barely) by BMI for 6’4". 180lb is in the lower half of healthy for that height.

BMI doesn’t work well on an individual level, though it misses in the other direction more often (overfat but not overweight is more common than overweight and lean).

On the off chance the title isn’t just fishing:

Waist to height is the only metric proven to relate to health (waist less than half your height.) Don’t worry about your looks, at least from this picture it looks like you have a lovely body. I find it healthier mentally to focus on athletic goals and let form follow function, maybe that would work for you too.