Awesome to have been of service! 🙂

I got around some problem with my Blåhaj Lemmy account by adding “lem.” in front of the address written in the email. So, instead of lemmy.blahaj.zone I made the address be lem.lemmy.blahaj.zone and then pasted that in the URL bar and pressed Enter. Maybe that could work for you as well?

This might be a matter of age as well. I’m about halfway from cradle to my grave. Makes genitals much more obedient.

Random erections are not necessarily a thing even without estrogen. When you start having one and immediately feel absolutely disgusted and self-hating by it, the erection is gone before it manages to even really begin.

And ones you have in the morning happen before you tuck, anyway.

In a meme?

Not necessarily. It would clutter the meme quite a bit to add separate educational material to it. I’d say this was a good solution for this occasion. It also proviked a question whose answer included the needed information.

And nowadays, when people know better, “transsexual” feels like a slightly derogatory term to many transgender people. Better avoid it’s use :)

Sex and gender are different things, though.

A trans person who never transitions is still a trans person. (And if they have not yet transitioned, they’ve always been trans all the same)

But the phrase “transsexual” suggests that a trans person is trans only if they medically transition at some point.

Transgender is much better :)

Seems to end with d or l, so probably not.

Yup. Completely agreed.
Romantic relationships have a strong tendency to be very dysfunctional precisely because of this. It’s made worse by most girls not knowing how limited a guy’s emotional repertoire is required to be, and most guys not knowing how strongly the society is conditioning girls to mute their desires.

And for this, that you ask for, to be possible some day, we really must do better!

Dunno. I don’t think she literally expects him to read her mind but this is rather an allegory of sorts.

And here comes the thing that her life doesn’t happen in a vacuum. She has been conditioned in all other parts of her life since she was only 12-year-old to not show sexual desire outwardly. It takes a lot of wisdom to understand not to apply in this situation something that you have accepted as a basic axiom of life.

Yeah, it would be much better to be outspoken about one’s needs, but that’s a very big thing to demand of a young and inexperienced woman. Relationship skills grow during the relationship. They are not something innate.

As long as the rest of the girl’s life conditions her to a certain behaviour, I would be primarily angry at those things conditioning her to that shit and only secondarily to her not recognising she has been conditioned to bad behaviour and should unlearn that usually necessary behaviour in certain contexts.

A woman might get beaten up or even raped as being “a whore” for being too outright about wanting sex. The risk is not very high, but if you repeat an action with a small risk often enough, the risk will realize.

Yeah, this is a thing that needs to change in the society. But, to change it, first it must be made safe, which means men actively standing up against other men when they behave in misogynistic ways. The bad guys look externally precisely the same as the good guys, and they ruin extremely much for the rest!

Could you tell what, approximately, was the important thing to read in the book?

I’m going to begin my HRT within the next month, I think, and while I do believe I’ve got a good hang of why I want slash need HRT, I’m obviously open for more insight that helps me understand myself yet a little better. That book is not available in my own library, but seems to be available some 100 km away, so I could get it with a somewhat reasonable hassle, but I’d like more insight on whether going through the hassle is worth it or not.

It really helps if you can find some!

Nails how I feel CUTE.

Look in the mirror.

…and you won’t see who it is. Because you are not me.

Thanks, that was a good text to read!

I’ve heard from some transfems who tried this that in the beginning of the HRT the fat goes to the places where it goes in a male body, so don’t expect nice results with this strategy very soon.

This trans baby that I am does not know when the fats will begin accumulating in the correct places, though, so cannot unfortunately help you with that. But eventually they will!

If it goes to your butt, that’s a good thing! I’d rather look like a somewhat fat girl than a skinny guy.

All I can say is that yesterday I just booked a time with a doctor in order to start my HRT and your text could almost have been written by me.

Feeling super scared. Anxious. And I’ve heard in the various trans peer support groups that that’s what others almost invariably have felt at thia point.

Apparently that’s how this goes. It is a daunting task. But, oso so many others have made it. And therefore, by all logic, so will both of us.

Why do you want to simulate periods?