The biggest strain on my finances is healthcare at 58% of my income. Then food at 28%. I’m fortunate enough to not have to pay rent, but if I did it would cost me about 35% for 1 bedroom apt 30 minutes out of the city. 80% if I wanted to be able to walk to work.
Couples therapy my man. Someone that is trans friendly. You’re both fighting depression and that’s valid but can ruin a relationship, believe me it ruined mine. At couples therapy we found that the issues that were forefront in our brain (ie, hair) weren’t the fundamental issues.