@DistressedDad - eviltoast

Reddit transplant. Formerly mr-blister-fister. A depressed and distressed dad from the Toronto area. Handy with the Photoshop and other creative tools. Mental health advocate.

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Cake day: March 7th, 2025

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  • I’m in the same boat. Bought a home in 2020. It’s been a constant stream of fixes and updates and replacements. My mortgage payments are high enough. Now we’re dumping thousands of dollars on flood prevention, evestrough replacement, random leaky pipes, furnace cleaning, deck refinishing, grass and landscaping. Wife and I both work full-time. We are dipping into savings to upkeep our home. I totally regret it. Should have bought a 2-3bed condo instead. At least we could plan for the monthly condo fees and not worry about sudden emergency fixes. I don’t know. I hate it.


  • Hi Stranger. At 21, this is a great opportunity for you to work on yourself and learn to pull yourself together. Work on your confidence. You don’t need a boy to make you feel seen and respected. Become strong, independent, follow your interests and join clubs or sports teams. Explore your community and join a committee. You’ll soon realize that you are incredible on your own and that you deserve better than a long distance relationship with limited contact. Good luck!


  • DistressedDad@lemmy.catomemes@lemmy.worldGood luck out there
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    10 hours ago

    the thing about having your soul-sucked is that you can bounce back and recover. and let me tell ya, it’s a whole lot easier to recover with money than without. The second part of your response seems to come with a little baggage. Maybe you should follow the money to afford a therapist? LOL





  • DistressedDad@lemmy.catomemes@lemmy.worldGood luck out there
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    16 hours ago

    Serious - Don’t follow your passion. I did. Went to school for something I was passionate about. Did well and graduated. I got a job in my field. But soon enough, my passion felt like work. My priorities shifted as I aged and I grew to hate what I studied and once fell passionate about.

    Find a career path that makes you money. Once you have that money you can make time to dabble in your passion projects and hobbies. Just wanted to add a different perspective to the meme :)



  • Back before the Canadian dollar was at or near par, we’d visit the US from Toronto monthly. We’d roll up to the outlets and score deals. I’d pick up parcels from my cross-border PO box. And then once we were all shopped out, we’d treat ourselves to a quality meal at Olive Garden and be on our merry way. Some nights we’d even get a room at the nearby casino, drop some money at the penny slots.

    Since 2016, in addition to the low Canadian dollar, the political climate and the rise of anti-intellectuals have really forced us to think twice about spending any time across the border.

    It used to be a fun day trip with great deals and cheap food. It’s not the case anymore.