Ya’ll could make dang near any article of clothing look cute 💜

Nice forklift!

The problem I have with that, is that threatening violence with an object is one of the grounds that someone can use to file a protective order and drag you into court.

I would be extremely careful doing that especially in a public place because if they get vindictive it becomes a huge legal hassle and they would have witnesses. In the USA you can’t ask for a public defender because it’s not a criminal case.

Just passing this along for safety information. Thank you for sharing what you did, I think it’s cool that there are places like that to seek adventures.

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This is a major reason I refuse to watch broadcast TV especially anytime near election cycles. The number of absolute garbage attack ads against us is enraging and I refuse to let them get me upset. And because these TV channels only care about the money they are getting and could care less if the content is complete misinformation, I refuse to watch the rest of the year as well. Freedom of speech should not be an unregulated engine for hatred but that is what we have I guess.

Omg that ring is freaking cool!!

Things have been going mildly ok, all things considered. I just attended a very nice gathering, had a nice meal and met new people.

This is a huge improvement to yesterday when I tried using my new food benefits card at the cheapest grocery store around, and it just kinda… Didn’t work at all. Not tapping, not chip, not sliding. “Oh I don’t think it’s you, someone else earlier had the same problem. Must be our system.” I said, “thanks, but I am sorry I can not buy these groceries then.” And I had to wheel the cart to the other side of the lane and unpack the 2 bags of groceries I had just packed, trying hard not to feel embarrassed, and left the store. I knew I had it set up right and was pretty unhappy at that situation.

So I went just down the street to a much more expensive store, spent even longer shopping, got up front to check out and tapping didn’t work, and chip didn’t work, but sliding it worked. Holy fuck. I am guessing the other store’s checkout lane has dirty sensors on that Point of Sale machine, or their system is just plain not communication with the food benefits system.

Next time I will go to the stores that are slightly better priced but not the cheapest. Groceries and gas are just so fucked right now.

Nya I hope you feel better o.o

Gender: I hardly knew (all pronouns)!

Woooooohooooo! That is so cool!!!

You look so happy and this pic is adorable and your smile is contagious. Thank you for sharing this sweet picture!

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Things are improving. A mutual aid group has been helping me find places to stay. I am so freaking grateful that they found me a place for a month! There is hope out there when I look for it.

Peace out, girls.

If I had a sweater I would let you pull this thread as I walk awaaaaaaaaay

🎵I don’t care what they say about us, anyway.🎵

Sometimes the sketchiest places have the warmest hearts. But it’s also good to be cautious!

I hope you continue to find things there that compliment your journey!

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I am so happy that you have a supportive parent. The world needs more of them.

Thrift stores are so great. Some are definitely better than others. There is one I found around here that is huge and has tons of great looking items but sadly no dressing rooms. I got super lucky that the 2 pairs of slacks I picked up ended up fitting fine lol.

Those clothes look amazing and I am glad you are getting euphoria from them. 💜

Thank you honey this gives me hope. I am on my second week and now relying on people in the community. And for real they have kept me alive and fighting with al the help I have been getting. Thank you for showing me this isn’t the end. 💜

Sweet outfit!! Enjoy the show!

Thank you all so much for posting your timeline. I really love the styles you wear, and you look amazing. I am so glad you were able to recover and become beautiful butterfly’s.

You also gave me great advice the other day and I will always remember your kindness. ❤️

Great name! Hi Alethea, how are you doing today?

After being temporarily ejected from my birth parent’s home on Monday evening under false pretenses, this week has been one of the worst weeks of my life. She has been increasingly transphobic and unsupportive from the beginning and it came to a head this summer after I changed my name.

It is really sad because I am certain she has been gradually affected by cognitive decline and recently it has gotten worse. I was her caregiver for 10 years. Life sucks like that sometimes.

I will defend myself in court in 3 days. She was ordered by the judge to allow me 1 visit in between to pick up more of my belongings because I was only given 5 minutes to do so Monday night by the cops, and of course they show up late at night so I was quite groggy. Sadly, the cops have not called me back yet so in anticipation of her defying the judges order, I splurged at a thrift store and bought a cute black and white mini dress and a black purse to match. And hell ya I am wearing it to court. If I go down, it won’t be while wearing a T-shirt 😹

I had one advantage in my current situation, in that I have been anticipating something like this happening for over 3 months. So I already had a backpack prepared. I kept all my identity documents in it, including all prescription medications, my pill planners, my laptop, charging cable and brick, and a copy of my name change order.

This forward thinking saved this girl’s behind because I had to apply for shelter and SNAP on Thursday and found out that the State I live in, which is one of the better ones for trans folks, STILL had my dead name somewhere on their back end computers. So the guy is looking back and forth between my application and his screen and finally he said, something is wrong, your name doesn’t match your SSN. I was very upset internally but I put that emotion quickly to the side and explained that I was fairly certain that I had my new SS card in my car. He allowed me time to go get it and moved to the next person. Folks, I even had the letter they sent me saying ‘your name change was successful and your card is on its way but you can use this to start updating other things.’ This state tried to screw me over when I updated my medical insurance with them as well. It took fully 1 month to complete and I had to hound them about it. So if you change your name, be prepared for several follow ups with everything you change it on.

If you or anyone else is coming out to people that you live with, please prepare a backpack like this. If things even seem a tiny bit rocky, If they do not immediately embrace your identity, start preparing for the worst. Better yet, prepare before you tell anyone. Please pass along my story to anyone you wish.

I am alive, I am safe, and I am attempting to heal. I have an amazingly awesome therapist and supportive queer community. I was able to create accounts to allow myself to receive donations on the second day I was unhoused because I had all my information at hand. And the community rose up to meet me and try and arrange friendly couches which I will start relying on after the hearing. I have received money from complete strangers. Sometimes life kicks you down with one foot and helps you back up with the other… foot. Ok that line needs work. I still have my sense of humor 😹

I slept in my car on the third night by choice but I wasn’t prepared enough for that. I received amazing advice from people, you can check the thread I posted last week.

I am truly blessed and have started making plans for what I will do with the rest of my life. I am already 54 years old but I think I got another 25 or 30 years left in the tank and I will not give up.

I have worked on compiling a defense and hopefully I can get a public defender as my previous law firm is super busy now. As far as I am aware, the worst that happens Wednesday is that their bogus protective order stands and I will be officially evicted. Fuck it, get me the fuck away from her and the other 2 family members enabling her shitty behavior. I may lose my whole family over this. But I don’t care anymore. It’s up to them to decide who to believe.

Sorry for the huge post. I needed to say a lot, I guess. I have concentrated hard on self care and used some of the funds I was given for 5 nights in the best cheapest hotel possible. Tuesday night I will stay near the courthouse in an even more comfy hotel. I can’t stay in hotels forever and I know this. So I will spend my time finding more friends, learning spanish, creating music and learning how to live and navigate life as another person in between the cracks of society.

I am truly happy and blessed, and I am convinced there is more for me to do on this planet. Thank you for indulging me in this space. 💜💜💜

Omg I love those pictures, Nikki! Looks like you had good weather. I hope you had a wonderful time there. 💜