i thought she'd be happy for me - eviltoast
  • bleph@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I don’t agree with this in all cases.

    True, parents usually have a deeply ingrained emotional need to protect and nurture their children but:

    • Not all parents do. Narcissists have children all the time. When they do, they cloak their emotional vampirism in ‘love’ like they do in all relationships.
    • Even parents with the best intentions have to work HARD not to pass on their generational traumas, abuses, and bad habits.
    • Only the child can truly know what will fulfill them as a person. Parents often substitute what they wanted for their younger selves for the child’s best interest.

    For those still thinking I have no idea what I am talking about and you and your parents are different… please look into “enmeshment” for your own sake

    • Sivaru@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      I agree with you on the first one. There are parents who do not deserve to be called parents, and they should be punished.(It’s too complicated to discuss in a paragraph, each case alone, and the future effects on the child…). We live in a sick society. In the case of the OP, it is simple,this is not necessary, and his only task is to take care of his mother to not repeat the mistakes of his parents in the future to break the loop. But I don’t agree with the last one, children don’t know exactly what they want (we the adults don’t know what we want sometimes let alone children) but parents should respect their opinions and guide them and teach them how to make the right decision instead of making the decision for them. Have a good day.