Personally, I’m going back to pretending to be cis for at least the next 4 years. And I was just about to start everything. So I’m in a pretty dark place at the moment
I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven’t actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.
The shitty part is feeling like I’m betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can’t just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I’m just going to hide. I don’t want to put my family in danger, but I also can’t stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.
Hey, cis normative passing trans person here (in my case my long time partner has a phenotype preference and I chose him rather than physical transition) you are not betraying anybody. It is a hard road any of us walk and your decision, whatever it’s reason, is valid. We are going to need solidarity like never before and that doesn’t mean pointing fingers at ourselves or others and lamenting that our sacrifices don’t look the same. It means being kind to ourselves too. We are all going to need each other.
Don’t put if off is my advice. Imagine putting it off last Trump election and having so many years of dysphoria. I had friends who held off for years and they regretted it.
I’m so sorry. But on the one hand, if you haven’t started anything yet, that’ll be less of a paper trail for you. I’ve been on hrt for a year, and I can only imagine they’ll try and ban the drugs entirely. I haven’t changed my name, but I have changed my gender marker. You’re losing time, time you’ll sadly never get back, but in my case, I will lose time, my meds, all the progress I’ve made. I… don’t know how to deal with this.
Personally, I’m going back to pretending to be cis for at least the next 4 years. And I was just about to start everything. So I’m in a pretty dark place at the moment
I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven’t actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.
The shitty part is feeling like I’m betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can’t just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I’m just going to hide. I don’t want to put my family in danger, but I also can’t stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.
Hey, cis normative passing trans person here (in my case my long time partner has a phenotype preference and I chose him rather than physical transition) you are not betraying anybody. It is a hard road any of us walk and your decision, whatever it’s reason, is valid. We are going to need solidarity like never before and that doesn’t mean pointing fingers at ourselves or others and lamenting that our sacrifices don’t look the same. It means being kind to ourselves too. We are all going to need each other.
Your life comes first every time. Do what you have to do to be safe. We love you and no one is upset at you for hiding for your own safety.
Don’t put if off is my advice. Imagine putting it off last Trump election and having so many years of dysphoria. I had friends who held off for years and they regretted it.
I’m so sorry. But on the one hand, if you haven’t started anything yet, that’ll be less of a paper trail for you. I’ve been on hrt for a year, and I can only imagine they’ll try and ban the drugs entirely. I haven’t changed my name, but I have changed my gender marker. You’re losing time, time you’ll sadly never get back, but in my case, I will lose time, my meds, all the progress I’ve made. I… don’t know how to deal with this.
Same here, I have a great wife who supports me, and I was basing my transition on the results of this election. Feels horrible