I'm going to try not to swear when you're around. Is this a good apology to a coworker? - eviltoast

followed with ‘I wasn’t aware is so important to you. I didn’t want to insult you and if you felt so, I apologize. The word fuck is one I use very often, but I’ll try to control myself around you’

Note I didn’t insult the coworker (no fuck you or fuck off), but simply said ‘fuck’ out loud due to a job error.

  • Ziggurat@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    I wouldn’t wory too much about that coworker, if they can’t handle something as banal as fuck, it’s their problem, not yours

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      2 months ago

      Until it’s escalated, and then it’s definitely OPs problem. Most jobs have something about professionalism written is their handbook. The coworker will win that fight with hr every time.

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        2 months ago

        Than they can fight that any outburst is unprofessional and they are being harassed for what other coworkers are doing.

        Fuck Shit Damn Shoot Darn

        No difference, zero, but personal offense for arbitrary reasons.

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          True in theory, but in practice, those are pretty much universally accepted curse words. I personally swear all of the time when I know the audience I’m around, and hear people swearing from across my office, so culturally it’s not a thing where I work or especially my previous manufacturing job. In places that have outside customers or patients, the expectation is generally different and varying levels of masking those outbursts is required, sometimes even saying things like "crap"is too much.

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            It’s part of my religion, are you trying to suppress my religious rights?

            Or something like that, there’s always an angle to play if someone wants to be petty or want to exert their “power” over their coworkers.

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              Wow, you’re all wrapped up in power dynamics you have zero sense of courtesy for others.

              Hey, again, you don’t want to play along, that’s fine - you’ll be the one to reap what you sow.

              And in today’s business climate of 360° reviews, HR over-reach, etc, you’ll be the one missing out. Pretty much anyone in a business environment would agree that cussing is inappropriate. If nothing else, it demonstrates someone’s lack of ability to either recognize their audience, or (as in your case), to be dismissive of them.

              Cuss all you want, just don’t cry when you’re offered up during layoffs.

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                Curtesy? Dont say dang darn or shoot, theres zero difference, but it’s okay for you to have an outburst of frustration, but not for others?

                Thats hella biased dude.

                All outburst are either acceptable, or they aren’t, why are justifying one’s but disallowing someone else’s? For arbitrary reasons, when they can actually have valid reasons for their use, despite you not wanting to educate yourself.

                This is more than about cussing, it’s about any inappropriate outburst, but of course people try to justify their own, while decrying others.

                The one being biased and harassing someone for something they also do, would be the hr issue and the one up for layoffs dude, do you work in HR or something?

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      Lol, you’re funny.

      Go say “fuck” while standing in front of a judge. It’s banal, so it’s his problem, right?

      Until he fines you for contempt of court. Or jails you for continuing to say fuck after being warned.

      Society as a whole is a judge. If you refuse to try to get along with the rest of society, it may decide to not get along with you.

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        Vast majority of society does it, a small fraction make a big deal out of it, some do it behind closed doors, but to say society condemns it is just wrong, it’s only a small fraction of a over controlling corp jobs that disallow it. But what’s funny, those execs are all doing it themselves, maybe open the curtain and stop doing what a small portion of society has deemed “acceptable” for the rest of the world.

        Some judges won’t care, others would love to swing their power around, you seem to be wanting to be crushed am quieted by those above you for no reason other than their own enjoyment of theirs hypocrisy over you.

        Say darn, shoot, dick, dang to a judge and you can have similar results as fuck, so what’s your point here? What isn’t a cuss to you may be a cuss to someone else, yet you want a few people to be the judge of everything? Sure makes sense

        Also, 1/6 of the world speaks English, you could use that exasperation in over 80% of society and no one would even know what you said…… I wonder if you realize how many people cuss in their own language that you don’t even realize or know about……