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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Left_Spare_7564 on 2023-09-05 15:10:37.
My wife and I devide all expenses based on income (I pay 80% she pays 20%) and devide all the house chores based on working hourse ( I do all the chores 3 days a week and she does all the chores 4 days a week)
I recently decided to get a maid to do all the chores on my 3 days. I pay her from my own fun money. My wife is pissed that she does all the chores 4 days a week and I do nothing. I told her that she can get a maid for her 4 days and pay her from her own fun money but she thinks this is unfair and we should devide the maid expense 80/20 just like other expenses
I think this is very unfair and told her so. I then asked her what does SHE bring to the table if I’m paying for almost everything? She thinks I’m an asshole and currently we are not talking
Maybe not complete AH but very uncool and unnecessary. I can see why she’s not talking to you.
In this scenario, I see you now as a boss and your wife and the housekeeper as your servants because you get the benefit of a completely clean house just because you can afford it.
Might work out for you financially but unless you enjoy snuggling up to your money every night I suggest you find a more reasonable solution.
