An infallible dating strategy - eviltoast
    • archonet@lemy.lol
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      19 days ago

      not having a single person express genuine attraction and interest in me, in my life + the one time I thought I had that interest, after a few months, they dumped me on Christmas morning via text and said they essentially meant nothing of what they said before. Every single person before or since has either forgotten I exist or ghosted me outright within days or weeks of starting talking to them, even when they initiate. I suppose the novelty just wears off. Couple other highlights include the guy who used me as his therapist for a couple months until he forgot I existed when he got on antidepressants, and the guy who was over-the-top affectionate for weeks until apparently a switch flipped in his head and he became distant and quiet until ghosting me. And many more that I won’t bore you with.

      been slamming my head against that wall for 7+ years with absolutely no success, and I chose to stop trying for my own sanity. Sometimes you have to accept that some of the things you want out of life, are either simply not yours to have, or not in your control to obtain – it’s that or I keep raking myself over the coals trying to figure out what I don’t have that others want, and I’ve done that for long enough.

      and my story is just one of many, many people experiencing the hell that is other people.

      • shyguyblue@lemmy.world
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        18 days ago

        As a textbook people-pleaser, yeah it’s exhausting being the fun new toy until i realize they are using me as a bang-maid…

      • LouNeko@lemmy.world
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        18 days ago

        Sometimes you have to accept that some of the things you want out of life, are either simply not yours to have, or not in your control to obtain

        Couldn’t have said it netter myself.