https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/3297580
Well idk how to feel rn. I wrote her a handwritten letter and gave her 24 hours to either come over and have a follow up conversation or I’ll assume we’re over. (Had no intention of a break up)
Rn I’m in bed and she’s asleep next to me. We had a good conversation, we both apologised. I’m considering aaking my ex to delete the videos with me off the internet. No my gf didnt ask this of me and I didnt offee either, I might just do this myself, (I like my online privacy and dont have any social media account outside of this anyways).
I did a tonne of reassuring which I think did well. In person and in the letter. Promises were made on both ends.
Now for the bad part and I cannot believe Im putting this online, we just had the most disturbing sex ever. It would be normal in any other circumstance but for the fact that it was almost entirely what the video wth my ex was. This would still not be weird perhaps if there weren’t things we had never done before together.
So its new stuff and exactly what was in the video. This was creepy, was it not?? Maybe she thinks it’s things I like is my current assumption but idk. It’s been a while and my thoughts are rather scattered atm.
- What was the point of this?
- Do I bring this up?
- How do I bring this up?
- What do I even complain about here?
- Is she actually fine now or is there still an issue?
Ps. Thank you for everyones takes on the first post. For anyone saying we’re to immature to be in a relationship, we might be immature but we wanna grow together and see where this takes us. Hopefully this is a forever kinda thing.
What was the point of this? The disturbing sex? More insecurity and perhaps a desire to “own” it or an effort to rewrite your history. She makes the most recent memory of doing this stuff with her. This is now the predominant memory when you think about that sex.
Do I bring this up?
Depends, I guess. I’d want to know if she has gotten this out of her system or if this is just the start of it. I can’t believe she has just purged her insecurities just like that. Make-up sex is hardly likely to have changed some basic personality flaws. You’re hardly likely to get the real answers you want either.
Is she actually fine now or is there still an issue?
I reckon there is still an issue. She might have gotten some of it, much of it, out of her system. But as they say, forewarned is forearmed.