How do folks here handle the feeling that they're just waiting, not serving a purpose, and being a burden on their family as well. - eviltoast

I wake up, I eat, I read a little, I go back to sleep. I wake up, I eat, I read a little, watch a show with my wife, go back to sleep. I try not to eat more than 1500 calories because my activity level is so low I’ll get fat if I go above that.

What’s the end game here?

EDIT, FOR CLARITY:

I can’t work. I need to sleep like 14 hours a day. I’m exhausted all the time. I get fatigued after about 5 to 10 minutes worth of any labor, including things like going upstairs or loading a dishwasher. My hands shake all the time, to where I can almost not clip my own fingernails anymore.

I work a job for years and retired from it there’s plenty of money coming in. I just find myself in a place now where this chronic, undefined illness has taken over my life.

  • Olgratin_Magmatoe@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    My girlfriend and I are in a similar boat, but she is the one that is chronically ill. So I can say from the caregiver’s side of things, it isn’t a problem. I’m happy to help make sure my girlfriend is able to get through the day, and I don’t see her as a burden.

    I’m sure you’ve already talked to your wife about it, but if you haven’t you absolutely should. There is no guarantee that they see you as a burden.

    I hope the feelings you’re experiencing get better.

    • Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      We do talk a lot and she, like you, is a caring partner who loves me and doesn’t see me as a burden. She is also transparent about how hard it is at times. It’s strange to comfort her over something that is caused by a problem I have.

      So much conflicting emotion.