Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s? - eviltoast
  • rekabis@lemmy.ca
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    3 months ago

    Control your sex drive or it will be used to control you, and invariably very much against your own best interests.

    I got lucky, and found my own partner quite early on (28 years together, now). But I did not stop observing other couples around me, and those men who failed to adequately control their own sex drive were the ones who almost always were taken advantage of and manipulated against their own best interests.

    Ironically, RP (and to an extent, BP) information is a great base to understand how you can and will be manipulated, with MGTOW a good framework to insulate yourself against manipulation. Just understand that blaming others is a toxic and counterproductive path, seek to improve yourself to make RP/BP truths work with you and your best interests, and not against you.

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      3 months ago

      Recommending Men Going Their Own Way doesn’t bode well in regards to your opinion, so… OP, please disregard.

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        Recommending Men Going Their Own Way doesn’t bode well in regards to your opinion

        So working on yourself and improving yourself, building self-respect, setting personal standards that you refuse to compromise on, and focusing on intrinsic motivation is somehow “not boding well”?

        What a weird way of punching down.

        And for decades now, women have been screaming at men to “leave me alone”, for men to not bother them or approach them or hit on them or engage with them in any way unless engaged with first… yet you have issues with men who do exactly that? You have problems with men whose entire philosophy is to ignore women in exactly the ways that women have been demanding?

        Again, what a strangely hypocritical criticism.

        The entire point of MGTOW is to give men a path out of “incel-dom”, to show them that there is an alternative path to fulfilment and peace and effective happiness that is entirely self-achievable because it does not hang on the sharp hooks of female approval. That any man can fully divest themselves of this cycle of bigotry and external blame and the bigoted societal expectations of men to focus on what truly matters - themselves.

        And in our society where ¾ of all suicide victims are men, we desperately need more men to focus on themselves, first.

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          So working on yourself and improving yourself, building self-respect, setting personal standards that you refuse to compromise on, and focusing on intrinsic motivation is somehow “not boding well”?

          That is not what MGTOW means in reality, and you know it. Stop playing coy.

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            That is not what MGTOW means in reality, and you know it. Stop playing coy.

            Ah, ignorance. It exists both as an innocent lack of information as well as an intentional rejection of facts. Yes, your cultivated ignorance is on full display.