what's a polite way to reject a picture with a very thankful patient who was under your care? - eviltoast

I have a problem with establishing boundaries.

I’m a private person. That’s very often misinterpreted as being arrogant and feeling superior to others. I’m not, I just wish to be left alone, but people still feel disrespected and it’s tiring to be constantly explaining yourself. And I don’t understand why I have to explain myself constantly.

This very emotional and thankful patient wanted a picture with me and I stupidly agreed. He also wanted my phone number (I gave him a false one) to invite me to have lunch, as he celebrated his 70th birthday. I don’t believe it was sexual or romantic, because he is married, his wife was there when he extended the invitation and took the picture and he also wanted to invite the whole unit.

I acted like this because it was the easiest way to get him to leave the hospital and free the room but also because I didn’t want to cause a scene.

What could I do next time?

  • 14th_cylon@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    It’s one of those things I would explain to my kid that you just do it and get it out of the way even if you don’t like it.

    and if he wanted to grab her ass just a little bit, would you also explain to your kid to just suck it up and get it over with?

    Sucks to be your kid, if you have some.

    • EatATaco@lemm.ee
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      3 months ago

      Are you comparing sexual assault to having your photo taken? Yikes.

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        3 months ago

        I am explaining to you that it is not your job to decide where other person have their boundaries.

        Your only job is to respect them when they tell you, otherwise you risk anything between broken nose and jail.

        And you seem to be strangely bent on explaining that it is really your opinion on someone else’s boundaries that matters, which is why you sound like a creep, you “yikes”

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          3 months ago

          which is why you sound like a creep,

          Yeah this is just too bizarre to continue. I’m done.

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            3 months ago

            This has been bizarre since the moment you opened your mouth, too bad it didn’t stop you then.