My elder has a panic button that is:
“I’m too upset to talk about it right now.”
And that by modern parenting it means timeout. It is though a pretty good idea because once every one has cooled down, it’s easy to talk out why there’s a coat of paint on the tv.
My elder found a loophole: “Did you do a mistake or did you do it on purpose?” “A mistake.” “Ok what was your mistake?” “Em… getting caught?”
That’s why you probably should ask an open question like “How did it happen?” And maybe follow up with “What did we learn from it?” or something.
But I’m neither a parent nor an expert so what do I know?
My elder has a panic button that is: “I’m too upset to talk about it right now.” And that by modern parenting it means timeout. It is though a pretty good idea because once every one has cooled down, it’s easy to talk out why there’s a coat of paint on the tv.
That’s actually kind of extremely mature, waiting until you aren’t upset/angry to talk about it takes a lot of maturity and usually helps
Probably still a teachable moment… somehow!? :-P
The most unforgivable sin, really.