The comfort of finally being able to let your guard down - eviltoast
  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    Man, that’s the total truth.

    I got lucky with my wife. We were friends before becoming romantically inclined, so some of the awkwardness and nerves were gone by the time we realized it wasn’t only friendship any more. That friendship is still there, there’s just a big + to it now.

    But, even having gamed together and bullshitted online for most of two years, along with the kind of non gaming conversations we had along the way, there’s still some of that butterflies in the stomach when we met in person the first time. And there were definitely a few days where the shock of being together made us act like we hadn’t spent a year and some big change cracking bad jokes, talking about farts, and otherwise letting it all hang out while we hung out via software.

    Anyway, yeah, part of the great joy of a having a partner is the freedom to just be silly and honest and share the simple things.

    • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      My wife and I dated for 3 months before we even kissed for the first time, and then we continued dating for almost 4 years before we got married. We consider the slow start to our relationship and the friendship we formed during that time to be the backbone of our relationship. We almost never fight, and when we do it’s over completely stupid stuff. That happens about 1-2 times per year. A solid friendship makes the best foundation for a lasting relationship. We’ve been together for almost 20 years now. Soon we will have been together for longer than we were apart.