Daily Discussion Thread: Tues 11 Jul 2023 - eviltoast

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  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
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    1 year ago

    time to play “are things actually hectic” or “is my brain just trying to make things this way?”. I get the sense life is only as hard as you make it, trouble with my anxiety is it LIKES things hard. twists things into problems, forces me to take positions on things. I grew up where everything is a fight, so it tries to make everything a fight. And every now and then I need to stop breath and try untwist the knot my brain has tied itself into,

    • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
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      It’s hard, eh? I envy the hell out of people who just seem to go with the flow. That whole “just roll with the punches” kind of person. My brain is constantly trying to play 4D chess in a world that, really, should just be checkers and nothing more. Everything needs a “solution”, even if there isn’t necessarily a real problem presenting itself in the first place.

      It’s fucking tiring, man.

    • anobium_punctatum@aussie.zone
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      Oh mate. My brain does the exact same thing. I grew up in a loving but stressful environment, and it feels like I’m still, constantly, worrying about what can go wrong and managing my emotions/actions/thoughts to avoid potential conflicts.

      I just wanted to say, you’re not alone. You can get through this too. Deep breaths help me.

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      Biggest thing im trying to learn still, and will continue to need to learn is to PAUSE!!! I need to start doing it before anything i do, say, etc. Need to practice it for it to become the norm, but pausing before reacting, or speaking or doing is so important with an anxious brain. I also liked in the book im reading the process of SPOT, STOP, SWAP. It talks of recognising negative thoughts and spotting them, stopping once you have spotted them and then finding a way to swap that thought for a positive one :)

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        Yeah it’s about training the brain that you don’t need that instinct any more. Slowly changing the response and stuff, but pause and breath are very good things.