How to deal with bullies? - eviltoast

I’m 13y old that was recently diagnosed with ASD. School is starting soon, they surely haven’t changed nor a little bit. They’re just bunch of idiots that like to express their pain and anger on others. Or just fool them for fun. Reporting them does nothing (have been doing that for almost 6 years). It’s like reporting system in CP (Club Penguin), no one is even sure if it even does anything. I never do anything to them, I just stare at them or do something else. That I have blank face or sound calm dosen’t mean that I’m calm. When I answer in short sentences that either means that I don’t have inspiration to talk or that I hold lots of emotions in me. And, about blank face… I ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE BLANK FACE. I almost never express my emotions on my face. So, should I just throw a tantrum without caring for consequences or act tought. Does entire community of ASDers need to act like douchebags just to not be an easy target for bullying?!

P.S I’ve posted this in c/autism because I feel like this problem is deeply tied with my personality. -medvedev-

    • Seigest@lemmy.ca
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      1 year ago

      Im in my 30s now so from a differnt world. but I can confirm this helped me a lot when I transitioned into high-school. All the bullies from elementary school where quick to keep up their bull crap.

      I joined the drama troupe as a stage tech. We had access to various areas of the school that other students didn’t. We ate lunches on the catwalk above the cafeteria. Also, we had access to swords and the attractive/popular acting students where always very good to me because i was good to them. It was good times all around.

      If thats not your thing know that the bullies just go away eventually regardless. Many of mine chilled out and become stoners who never actually came to school. Sometimes they just become better people, and some just leave. Pretty much a few months into high-school I was bully free.

      I have had a few bullies in adult life but I’m considerably better equipped to deal with that now. Some assertiveness training, and therapy for the social anxiety and you can make them back down pretty quick.