"a feminist community for men" doesn't sound very liberating - eviltoast

Why are we continuing to use biased language?

    • eardon@lemmy.caOP
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      7 months ago

      If it’s about equality, then it shouldn’t be a word that has clear preference for one sex.

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        7 months ago

        No, because the word itself is not the problem. You think it’s a problem because it starts with “fem” and immediately think it’s all about female power when it’s not. I suggest learning more about it before drawing these conclusions.

      • spaduf@slrpnk.netM
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        Well, it’s important to recognize that the term is distinct from egalitarian. The term feminism does essentialize the advocating for the equal rights of women, but it is also important to note that while this is a feminist community, this community is not about feminism. This community is about men and their specific liberation from oppressive gender roles and stereotypes.

      • folkrav@lemmy.ca
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        7 months ago

        The “the word implies women superiority” argument has to be the proverbial dead horse that gets beaten with a stick, when it comes to feminism, at this point…

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          7 months ago

          Then, you should probably be able to respond to it easily instead of dismissing it.

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            7 months ago

            I don’t see a point to me doing it yet again, when it has already been many times over, in better words than I could, in this one thread and beyond. The men’s lib movement this community is about is by definition, if not outright feminist, very feminist adjacent and aligns on many views. This is not the “men’s rights” movement.

            For what it’s worth, if you are actually asking for my take and not an info dump, IMHO, the semantic argument is rarely very strong. In practice, tons of the societal issues women face align with men’s, for example on their very opposition on traditional roles.

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              7 months ago

              I like “feminist adjacent community for men”. I’m a fan of that.

              I don’t like “feminist community for men”.

              95% of the time, anyone concerned with men’s struggles should agree with feminist takes.

              I just don’t want us to be beholden to the 5%.

              • folkrav@lemmy.ca
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                7 months ago

                My point was pretty much that I don’t feel like semantics are really beholding anything. There’s just no end to following that logic. The other commenter accused me of being ashamed of defending men’s interests because of my position. Isn’t this literally being ashamed of calling myself feminist cause I disagree with the extremist minority? If you’re 95% of a feminist, you’re pretty much a feminist. There’s disagreement even internally to pretty much every movement out there. Not everyone agrees on everything.

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                  7 months ago

                  That “pretty much” is huge imo. It gives us wiggle room to disagree without also attempting to win the rest of feminism over to our side.

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                    I’m genuinely confused as to why one would need “wiggle room” for anything, who we need to “win over”, and what is that “side” you’re referring to.

                    Movements as large as feminism have plenty of internal disagreement. There’s no party line, no code of conduct, it’s a bunch of people fighting over similar principles. Do you agree with literally everything from every movement or political allegiance you associate with?

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              7 months ago

              If semantics isn’t a real problem, why do you oppose the changing of semantics so desperately to the point of insulting/diminishing those that discuss it?

              You’re literally part of a “men’s right group” while simultaneously using the literal phrase for it as an insult because of Toxic Feminism.

              The first step of an inclusive society that listens to each others issues is already being failed by your ideology that is asking it of others. The feminist movement that inherently shits on men’s rights are in no way representative of an inclusive group of left minded people. Recently, these groups are being labeled as the new right wing online pipeline for women.

              It seems like you want to have and eat cake here.

              If it is such a common problem, why is there no common inclusive response?

              • folkrav@lemmy.ca
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                Re-read my last comment, follow the link, read some definitions. You either missed or skipped the point I made on my previous comment that we are not on a “men’s rights group”. You’re kind of illustrating my point for me here. Feel free to point out at the “insult” I made, I’ll gladly retract if there is genuinely one. I can’t find it.

                • nac82@lemm.ee
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                  7 months ago

                  You’re misreading my response. The “men’s rights group” is the insult I’m talking about.

                  You are ashamed to participate in advocating for men because of Toxic feminist perspectives I’m addressing.

                  • folkrav@lemmy.ca
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                    I’m sorry, but I think it’s the other way around. As I mentioned in my previous comments, “men’s liberation” and “men’s rights” just both happen to be names referring to specific movements that both advocate for men’s interests, but largely disagree on the causes.

                    If you still genuinely think I’m somehow ashamed of advocating for men just cause I don’t agree with the ideas of the MRM in particular, this idea that feminism as a whole is somehow either obsoleted by the existence its extremist elements, rather than just being a parallel fight, then… what are we arguing over, exactly?