I’ve realized I am really bothered by passive voice in cleaning with people I live with. “I am going to do the dishes tonight” - great “Eric, would you take out the trash tonight please?” - that’s fine! I probably would have taken it out if I had realized it was full. I’m an adult and this is my house, I try to keep it clean. “We need to clean up around here!” - What does that mean? Do you want me to clean? Are you going to clean? I thought things were pretty clean, is there something specific that needs cleaning?
Also me and my mom can’t live together because we do dishes differently. I am a “fill and start the dishwasher” person and she is a “Empty the sink” kind of person.
OMG my sister would do this on purpose when we were teens. She would put clothes in the washer/dryer, knowing we would “push” them through the system as we did ours. Cause if something is in the washer that is wet when you need to use it, you just move it to the dryer, if something is in the dryer, you put it in a laundry basket and fold it.
But me and my mom realized the flaws in our system when we would fold entire loads of my sister’s laundry, but would never find any of ours done! She thought she was slick and would only put her clothes into an empty washer/dryer.