What are some tips for handling confrontation at work for someone who’s naturally averse to confrontation? - eviltoast
  • trufax@beehaw.orgOP
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    1 year ago

    I am the “averse” one- meaning, I have a hard time setting firm boundaries, struggle with gathering the courage to say no, etc. The person in question I’m having to push back against is kind of passive aggressive/manipulative, but seems very confrontational.

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      1 year ago

      So why are you talking to them? Part of being a good conversationalist is knowing when to drop it.

      I think (I am a shit head on the internet) that this might be telling you something. To reaffirm those boundaries you already know about.

      Talk to them or don’t, but remember what is important to you personally.

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        1 year ago

        Well, to answer your question, I have to talk to them. Very small team, this lady seems to think she’s in charge of the whole team instead of her two direct reports. Heres more context from upthread: https://beehaw.org/comment/973873

        But you are right about reaffirming of boundaries. I think I get scared when pushing back because I’m not always great at regulating my emotions so I’m terrified I’ll get worked up and say the wrong thing, but I really need to work on this skill. It’s important, I do not want to be someone easily steamrolled.