Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can? - eviltoast
  • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    I became a manager because I worked with shitty managers who sit on their ass and promote their friends. I wanted to change that.

    I take on harder projects than my peers because I can handle it. It’s easier for me to deal with the stress, than give it to a teammate who would absolutely struggle and lose 4 weekends trying to solve it.

    I became a parent because I worked in the school system and taught kids without good families. I used to stay after school just to give these kids a positive influence before they get sent back to their shitty home.

    I absolutely do not think about the stress of the added work, but instead focus on the results of my actions (or the results if I don’t do it).

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      8 months ago

      I became a parent because I worked in the school system and taught kids without good families. I used to stay after school just to give these kids a positive influence before they get sent back to their shitty home.

      Don’t take this as criticism, just trying to understand: What’s the logic here? As a teacher without kids (for now), I feel like I’d have more to give to help my pupils if I don’t have kids of my own.