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  • dumpsterlid@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    And modern feminism does imply that men can’t really talk about issues because that comes from a place of privilege.

    I mean yeah there are shitty feminists like there are shitty types of all people but no most modern movements of feminism that are considered seriously by academics and people concerned with gender, sexuality and politics absolutely DO not imply men can’t talk about issues. Intersectional Feminism isn’t just about empowering women, it’s about creating structures that defend and empower everybody including women.

    A feminist might be exhausted from toxic masculinity and the power imbalances of men vs women in society and in the moment not respond well to you bringing up issues with men, but feminists definitely by and large do care about men and the issues they face because at the end of the day they are just the flip side of the problems women face.

    It’s all part of the same problem and the only way to fix it is to take better care of each other, which includes men, it includes everyone.

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      8 months ago

      I think the point I’m trying to make is that DEI seems to have forgotten the cis white male.

      Yeah, we’ve been privileged forever…and obviously equality feels like oppression to the priveleged…but at the same time I know I can find employee groups for every racial group, gender, and sexuality…except for the white cis male. To the other posters point, the same is true on college campuses. The only space left is frats, and that tends to attract toxic personalities.

      At some point, everyone need to be able to feel they are in a comfortable space with peers. That is, ultimately, the whole idea of DEI. And it is a very noble idea. But in the process, we’ve co-edified all of the old-boys-groups and made it offensive to want to form a new one.

    • chakan2@lemmy.world
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      8 months ago

      absolutely DO not imply men can’t talk about issues.

      That’s so ridiculously false. Every college campus in America has a women’s only space now. How many of them have a men’s only space that hasn’t been coopted by the women’s studies department?

      The only men’s spaces left in academia are frats…which is the bastion of al the things this post is complaining about.

      And hell…that’s the core of this issue. If regular non toxic alpha wannabes want to talk about an issue…there’s simply no place to do it because the feminists have driven those discussions to the dark dank corners of toxic hell holes of society.

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        8 months ago

        If regular non toxic alpha wannabes want to talk about an issue…there’s simply no place to do it because the feminists have driven those discussions to the dark dank corners of toxic hell holes of society.

        Cite your sources if you want to make huge lazy generalizations that are honestly insulting to the immense amount of violence and structural exclusion women have faced down to get to the imperfect state of women’s equality.

        Cite your sources it is a bunch of angry feminist activists shouting down men everywhere just trying to talk about why they are hurt.

        Show me your sources, and a couple of anecdotes don’t count, show me evidence this is happening systematically.

        edit love it, downvote me without giving any evidence that.