Getting back into dating after ending a serious relationship and recovering - eviltoast
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    9 months ago

    Meanwhile me just starting out dating at 29 because I just now feel like a person who is grown enough for a relationship: “Ah bollocks”

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      9 months ago

      I’d say what decides if dating is good or not is if it improves your life more than it takes away, and that can happen at any age. I’m 43, but when I was in my 20’s to mid-30’s I did a lot of dating, and I preferred (by a good margin) the stuff after 30 or so. The part of people’s brains that handle jobs like reasoning and good decisions don’t stop physically maturing until mid-to-late 20’s. So people may literally, physically think different before and after 25ish.

      Anecdotally, dating after 30 was just nice because I got to skip some of the crap. I found partners that were content to live life at my speed. Not every date having to be an all-nighter in a club etc.

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        9 months ago

        Yeah, I have my lower age cutoff at like 26 because of this and have no issues going up to 32. I am just not up for childish shit in a relationship and hearing some stories from other dudes what happened in their younger relationships, I might not have skipped the worst time.

        I hope I find someone who does improve my life (and me improving theirs!). I want something where everyone gives what they can without burning out and everyone being better off for it.