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  • go_go_gadget@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    In my example it could just be not beating myself up over something I failed at, it’s not really something to praise it’s just something you’re supposed to do.

    Why isn’t people doing what they’re supposed to do worthy of praise? Can you tell me about what things are worthy of praise? Have you dissected where the distinction lies between what is worthy of praise and what’s “just something you’re supposed to do”?

    I read the above aloud to myself and I recognize it could potentially sound accusatory or disagreeable. I am not trying to change your mind here but I am curious about the underlying though process.

    • Asafum@feddit.nl
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      9 months ago

      I guess I tend to see things as good, bad, or neutral and a lot of the “bare minimum” things fall into that neutral category. It’s not good or bad, it’s just what you’re supposed to do, kind of like going to work. It’s not worthy of praise that I went to work. I need money to live, they need labor, so I go to work and they pay me. It’s not good or bad. Sure there are ethics involved the deeper you go like “it’s bad to call out sick when you’re not sick” so going to work is “good” if juxtaposed to that, but I think you could spend an eternity breaking things down more and more like that lol

      Worthy of praise would be more “difficult,” to keep with the work thing just doing my job isn’t worthy of praise, but accomplishing something “more,” maybe solving a problem or fixing something that’s not the standard for your job would be worthy of praise.