Hanging out with my nieces/nephews I now understand most the discipline I received as a child was most likely because I was being annoying and nothing to do with right or wrong. - eviltoast
  • tree@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    We are taking the same approach and every word you said landed with me, matched my experience.

    I’ll add that this is a VERY different strategy from the approaches taken by both my partner’s and my parents.

    It’s not easy, but I think we’re raising better humans than ourselves. On days when it’s exhausting and you’re burned out and you feel like you can’t do it, cling to that.

    You’re doing great. It’s worth it. Keep it up! 💚

    • Jimmyeatsausage@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      100% agree. My childhood is a haze of physical and psychological abuse… not just between the parents and kids but between the adults as well. If I’m proud of anything, it’s the success I’ve had breaking that cycle. I slip up sometimes, but I can honestly say I’ve never called either of my kids hurtful names or laid a hand on them in anger.